reassurance seeking

If you’re asking someone, tell them to stop giving you reassurance. My therapist suggested they reply with something outrageous. Examples: “Baby, I thought that guy was cute. I feel like such a cheater.” “Ugh babe yeah, you practically slept with 20 men.” “Are you sure you love me?” “Ugh babe, you know I will never love you as much as a yellow grasshopper.” “Did you cheat on me?” “Babe, you haven’t noticed yet? I’m a hooker ofc.” “Am I a bad person?” “Yep, you’re basically the villain from every movie ever. You’ve probably got a secret lair somewhere.” “Do you still love me?” “Love you? I can barely stand your obsession with socks. Honestly, it’s a lot to handle.” “What if you don’t want to be with me anymore?” “Honestly, I’m just waiting for the day you realize you’d rather marry my foot.” “I feel like I’m not good enough for you.” “Well, you’re definitely not as good as that pizza we had last night.” “What if I’m not good enough for you?” “You’re definitely not good enough to win a potato sack race. I’m not sure where we go from here.” “What if I’m not enough for you?” “Well, you’re not enough to defeat the evil army of paperclips I’ve been secretly training, so there’s that.” “Do you think I’m ruining your life?” “Yeah, you’re the reason my favorite cereal keeps getting discontinued. It’s honestly tragic.” Lmfao sorry I had too much fun with these… you’re not alone. I’ve started rolling my eyes at my bf now when I ask for reassurance so there’s that improvement! My boyfriend’s favorite is saying “you’re Hilter bro.” Might not be what you want to hear, but it works. This is my biggest compulsion.

This is my issue too idk how to stop

I get you, what i do is always try to just let it go. Ik it's easier to Say than do but You can always remind yourself You need to let it go and distract ,sometimes i can't help it because i feel extreme distress but always try to have in mind "I can I want and I WILL let it go" no matter how Bad it felt