sexualizing the person my ocd is hooked on bothers me a lot! it doesn't matter if I see the picture, live, facial grimaces, movements... and the groin starts instantly... I somehow cope with thoughts, but with those feelings...very difficult? any advice? any similar experience?
Sexualizing something momentarily, can be a compulsion to gauge how you feel about it or to reassure yourself that it still makes you uncomfortable. It’s a checking compulsion. If you’re not doing this on purpose (sometimes it hard to tell, it took me months to figure out I was checking), it’s likely intrusive and you just have to treat it like brain noise. Don’t ruminate or try to figure out if it means something. It’s OCD just trying to hook you. It’s really hard but you kinda have to not care that it happens and disengage if you start to ruminate. You’re not alone, this happens to me both intrusively and compulsively 🤍
Wow I never thought about it that way. I never knew it could be a checking compulsion to see if It bothers you. It makes sense .
@issphra 🫶🏻 yes, it actually makes sense. but I guess it has become so automatic with the feeling of the groin, that I don't even notice that fraction of a second as something like that. Thanks a lot, I'll keep that in mind. It's just really, really hard to believe yourself first..because it appears in every form...
@Justsurviving I am a very analytical person, and my therapist said it is both a blessing and a curse. Unfortunately, my OCD uses it against me by fueling rumination, making it much harder to resist the urge to figure things out. But it is also a blessing because it gives me strong insight into my OCD, helps me catch sneaky, less obvious compulsions, and allows me to explain what they are and why they happen. I’m so glad you saw this! It can make it easier to stop once you’re aware of what’s happening :)
@issphra 🫶🏻 also..my therapist says that I am such a person, and that it is very difficult to ignore things and in general it has made my condition difficult, so much so that even when I have insight, I have a hard time accepting it...thank you very much, I will try to present it to myself in this way, considering that it seems very real...especially when it gets fake and fake attractiveness...
What irritates me the most is that during intimacy with my husband, it happens that OCD puts an image and scene in my head, my sister or someone for whom my OCD is attached and it's literally as if that intimacy is happening with that person, and it seems real that I can and it's exciting! I'm working on ERP during that, but it's still hard to digest... I don't know if it's the same for you?
more advice for sexual/pocd sufferers I read somewhere that if you hyperfocus too much on your body's reactions to intrusive thoughts, you're unwillingly just making it intensify the sensations. Your body, after enduring severe anxiety and stress from sexual obsessions, will now just react to anything sexual that comes into your mind, whether forced or randomly. It can happen in any way. OCD makes anything possible, and is driven by fear. Knowing this I realized, it doesnt matter at this point, and to let it happen. And you guys should too. Remember what your real values and desires are. It can feel as real as it gets, but it is still not you.
I already wrote about this and you really helped me, but now I wondered?! During the erp, I look at a picture of that person with some grimaces that the brain sexualizes, otherwise I have incest ocd! The person is of my gender, I'm not gay otherwise. And then, based on those facial expressions, the brain creates sexual images in my head, which I often feel as sexual and mental arousel. It is enough to see the picture or hear the voice of that person! Based on the pictures it gives me the idea of sexually touching myself on it and climaxing while watching. I feel an urge (I tried something like that a few times ago and now I'm afraid of it), and then the exercise is over, but I stay until I get the answer I want and the feelings that would calm me down, but that happens less and less... Have you had any experience, and is it a compulsion? how can I stay after exercise with that feeling of reality.. Thank you in advance❤️
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