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- Date posted
- 17w
AnonymousestiAnonymousesti
- Date posted
- 17w
heyyy! its normal not to feel "turned on" all the time!! and not everyone is the same! Most of my friends dont get turn on when they see their bf naked but they do once they get intimate! others get turned on just by looking at a guy! some value romantic connection more than sexual connection! one comment on a tiktok video soesnt define who you are! I've read a lot of your posts and its pretty cleary you're straight and in love with your bf! it doesnt matter what the future holds because right now you wand him and thats what matter. Hope this helps!
ElliesmithElliesmith
- Date posted
- 17w
@Anonymousesti It’s just weird tho, even though I know I do get aroused etc with my bf ( even tho not ALL the time ) my ocd will be like BUT what if? or will even question if i even got aroused in the first place even if I have like physical proof. Nothing seems to be enough to be like ok I don’t need to worry I know I am straight
AnonymousestiAnonymousesti
- Date posted
- 17w
@Elliesmith - and that is the power of OCD! see how you're saying what if what if? this is how it has a hold on you! and if im not mistaken I did read in your previous post that not once have you been attracted physically or emotionnaly by women, so there you go! not feeling one thing doesnt mean you're automatically something else!
AnonymousestiAnonymousesti
- Date posted
- 17w
@Elliesmith - exactly!! soocd can play soo mant trucks! imagine a scenario where you and your bf are no longer together or if he breaks up with you, would you be heart broken?
Gato0zGato0z
- Date posted
- 17w
I feel the same way as well
Gato0zGato0z
- Date posted
- 17w
@Elliesmith Yep, it’s awful I understand
SesamoiSesamoi
- Date posted
- 17w
Heyyy! Im straight and asexual, just meaning I don’t really feel attraction in that manner, but I do have romance. I also went through questioning, which got me freaked out. The truth is, I think, if identifying that way makes you panic, that’s probably not who you are. That panic “what if” feeling is a telltale sign that this is OCD, not a valid question. I mean yes it can be a valid question, but you really don’t seem to want that. Not being turned on, ace or sexual, is completely normal. It doesn’t mean you have to be gay. “False dilemma”, or all or nothing, is a logical fallacy. Listen to reason: do you really think you’re gay? Do you REALLY? Do you want to be with a woman? I don’t think so from your answer. Don’t sweat it.
miller351miller351
- Date posted
- 17w
Well I don't want to change the subject but I've been a drug addict for some time now and my two drugs of choice were heroin and fetty but something happened to me and I haven't used any of those things for the last year now but but before I would think about these things without doing them I would think of these things without doing them but still the anxiety and the way I felt was pretty much the same way I get excited before I do it but then when Freddy came along was a whole different story I get excited before I do it but it anyway I went out three times on fetty without even thinking about it but then I just decided not to do it again but then I do think about it but not in the same way as I did before maybe I don't even have this I'm just I'm just fishing to see if I do
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- Date posted
- 21w
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- Date posted
- 13w
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- Date posted
- 11w
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