Hello everyone! Is there anyone who told their partners that you experienced POCD in the past or that you are experiencing right now? How did they handle it? Did they understand it? Were they supportive? I'm creating future scenarios in my mind that I need to confess this to a future partner.
I’m sure you feel hesitant. But now a days mental health is much more understood then it used to be. While people may feel like taken away by the taboo obsessions, a lot of times depending on the person they can just immediately be supportive and understanding. They could be put off at first and then gradually become more supportive, empathetic and understanding. You know that the person really isn’t right for you atleast in my eyes if they make you out to be a bad person/ critisize your specific obsessions. Just know at the end of the day you’re not alone, and anyone else’s ignorance is up to them to understand with inflect rather then judgement.
However, you are never actually required to “confess”, actually erp tells us to do just the opposite of that. Don’t confess. It will feel very unpleasant but my pint is there is really no pressure for you to “confess”. It’s your choice how open you want to be with your ocd. You can tell them you have ocd but don’t have to feel shame in not going into detail. Or you can educate the person on ocd or the subtype you deal with. That approach may feel less stressful. However like I said among everything, there is no actually need for you to confess anything it’s up to you!
@Nick3841 Perfectly said!
https://youtu.be/NMGFE3sHIyg this Ted Talk isn’t necessarily the best on OCD but there is a moment in which she addresses her POCD to the crowd and it’s really powerful. Thought maybe this video could help in your journey here!
I am responding as the partner of someone with OCD. My boyfriend finally confided in me about 6 weeks ago. I immediately accepted what he was telling me and didn't judge him for it. Instead, what I did was set out to understand the mechanics of what it is and how it works. I'm very vocal that while I cannot understand exactly what he's experiencing and that I'm not capable or qualified to fix it for him, but I believe what he's telling me and I know that it's very real to him. That's how I ended up here. He doesn't want to live like this anymore and was willing to take the risk of asking for help. What I'm saying is, your partner might surprise you. There's no way to know for sure how they will react, but it's a risk you'll have to take.
I told my partner two weeks into talking and he is marrying me this year. There’s no way to know how they will respond and in fact, when I first told him and I was waiting for his response, I wrote a desperate prayer to God that he’d be understanding and that prayer was the first time I admitted I loved him. It was scary, I felt sick, but he was incredibly supportive.
Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else has experienced something similar with OCD and intrusive thoughts. I’ve been struggling during moments of intimacy because intrusive thoughts, particularly ones related to POCD, feel so ‘sticky’—like they’re all I can picture. Even though I really want the thoughts to go away, they persist, and I’ve been trying not to avoid intimacy because of them. However, that makes me feel like I’m somehow ‘enjoying’ the thoughts or images, which I really dislike. It’s like my brain is playing this awful trick, and it’s leaving me feeling confused and gross. I guess I’m supposed to not let the thoughts bother me and continue as if nothing’s wrong, but I’m scared that by doing so, I’m almost training myself to get off to them or something. This fear makes it so hard to trust myself in those moments, and it’s been overwhelming. If anyone else has been through this, how do you handle it?
Last night I had a fucked up intrusive thought/urge about harming my partner and I'm spinning out today. I let them know I had an intrusive thought and was struggling with compulsions around it and future repercussions, but did not tell them exactly what the thought/urge was, which they accepted. Do y'all share details with your partners about harm ocd? How can we healthily ask for support from people we are having horrible thoughts about?
my spouse cheated on me on our wedding night and i haven't gotten over it. they never told their parents and i was resentful their parents didn't know. so i called them and told them today. it felt good in the moment to have that extra support from my in-laws but im freaking out now that i have to confess to my partner and they will feel betrayed by me and leave me. is this confession OCD or a real fear? i'm really freaking out.
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