I am getting worse and really struggling

@Bb280120 Yes! Let’s talk every day!! And maybe you can write to me some specifics of things you struggle with, and we can work together through the situation. You can get free from the OCD runs!!! You can do this!! Yes, you are right. You should start with some of your old compulsions. Start with the easiest compulsions. When you get success, you can slowly move onto the harder compulsions later on. In ERP therapy, they tell us to write down a list of every OCD rule, from the easiest to the scariest. Then we start breaking the easiest rules and practice that for a while. You move to the harder things on the list slowly over time. So go practice with the easy compulsions!!! Practice doing the opposite of what OCD tells you. If OCD says use one pencil, use a completely different one. If OCD says don’t touch a door handle, put your whole hand on the door handle and touch every part of it. Break the rules!!! You can do it!

@Bb280120 How are you doing today?

@Tea and Honey Also, if you could get ERP therapy through NOCD it could really help too!!!

@Tea and Honey I probabyl write from the begining Of you read it I would be happy an feel supportive Im Muslim and I thought something bad about God and I felt extreme anxiety and shame I was so afraid After that I had thoughts about my family I read something about my reşigious book but on the internet It said that something like promise toGod but It is very strong phrase It says theres no way oıt If you said this sentence( I couldnt express this in English well I hope you could ynderstand ) you or whom you said about it they would be cursed about this topic and since then I have this For example If I thought something bad I just couldnt handle anxiety and refer to the object to this like I promise If I touch this wear this eat this brands junk food ypu mak me go to hell and I just did avoidance behavior I couldnt use some type of plate because od that but this is thoughts didnt came about my self generally about my family and lately It comes about after death topics and actually before that I had thoughts about this world topics like diseases this was also bad but you can see it If this happen but we couldnt see If someone die before us and I just feel really terrible to think ablut this and I have to use the item which I promise about it I dont know what to do And Right now my life is very bad not just for ocd and I feel like this is because of me my obsessions and right know when I look back I feel like somethimes I feel like I use this unpurpose and Im lost it

@Bb280120 I use this purposely not unpurpose

@Bb280120 First, ERP therapy with the RIGHT therapist can help a TON. I recommend NOCD. All their sessions are on Zoom, and they take most insurance. If you get therapy from someone who does not do ERP, it’s not likely to work. ERP therapy is research-based, and it helps most people get out of their OCD traps. Having said that, I’m going to explain everything to you. A good ERP therapist would tell you exactly what I am to tell you also. Getting therapy could really help you, so it’s something to think about :):):) ————————————————- Okay, let’s get started. There are a few elements to address here. First, let’s talk about the BAD THOUGHTS. Everyone who has OCD has intrusive thoughts. These thoughts can be bad thoughts about God, bad sexual thoughts, violent thoughts, whatever. These are all common for OCD. So what do you do about them? This is very important. You have to learn to let them run freely through your head without trying to stop them. I used to have bad sentences about God running through my head every second of the day. I hated them. They scared me. But I learned that I needed to let those thoughts flow freely through my head without trying to fix them. When I started doing that, it opened the door for them to go away. Remember, the thoughts are all meaningless. It doesn’t matter if they are in your head or not. They have no power. My therapist described it like this: Imagine a tree planted by a river. The leaves from the tree fall off and float down the river. You don’t try to stop the leaves. You don’t try to pick them up or examine them. You just watch them falling and floating away. The same is true with your bad thoughts. You have to learn to just let them be there. You have to let them rattle around in your head all they want to. Don’t try to stop them. Don’t try to fix them. Just let them be there. This will cause anxiety, and that’s okay. But you have to train yourself to get to the point where the bad thoughts become like background music in the back of your brain. They are playing around in your head, but you are not going to respond to them. You are not going to change anything about your life because of the thoughts. To are just going to keep living your life exactly the way you want to, even though the thoughts are running through your head in the background. This can be hard with religious OCD, because we always worry if God is okay with letting the thoughts run though our head. But you also have to understand that OCD is OCD. It doesn’t matter if it’s religious OCD or HOCD or ROCD or whether the kind. You treat it exactly the same.

@Tea and Honey We have been of same circle then right know my real struggle is if this terrible thoughts would affect my mum and sister because mostly I have thoughts about them and I do same pattern and especially this week and before this week It sgetting much worse If you coukd give me some tricks to relieve I would apreciated

@Bb280120 Yes!! I totally understand what you are going through. Yes, I can tell you what to do. It’s going to be hard. But it’s harder to stay in the cycle of OCD. In other words, it’s scary to break out of OCD. But it’s worse to keep suffering with it. But once you break out of OCD cycle, it gets easier and easier. This takes a lot of practice and it will get easier over time. —————————————— It’s important to understand how OCD works. OCD will always tell you that you are going to die, or someone you love is going to die or be harmed, if you don’t follow the OCD rules. It sounds like right now that you are following a lot of OCD rules (like which pencil to use or to turn right or left in bed). It’s a lot of rules. And then OCD gives the fear that your mother or sister will be harmed if you don’t follow the rules correctly . The way to break out of this is to refuse to follow the rules. It’s very scary, but you have to take the RISK that nothing is going to happen to your mother or your sister even if you do the opposite of what OCD tells you to do. You should start small. Let’s say the OCD says you have to use a certain plate. You should choose a different plate ON PURPOSE . You should do the opposite of what OCD says to do. This will be scary, but you can do it. Try it with just one thing, and later you can practice with others. When we have OCD, we absolutely need to face our fears. It’s very hard, but we have to do it. I have a very deep fear of going to hell. Sometimes when I have conversations, I get afraid that the words I use will send me to hell. ButI have to face this fear. It’s the same for everyone with OCD. We have to face our fears and take our lives back from OCD. This is going to be a process that will take time. You are going to get better little by little. So don’t get discouraged if it takes time practice—but you will get better and better. We can talk every day if you want to. I know what it’s like to suffer the way you are suffering. And I don’t want you to have to suffer any more. There is a way out. And you can do it!! Please feel free to write out your questions with details . I want to listen to you and help you. The rules the OCD gives you are actually “compulsions.” Following the rules make you feel “safer” for a little while, but then the rules always get worse. Do you think you can start with just one thing, and refuse to follow the OCD rule? Let me know what you think?