ROCD about abuse

Learning about the different ways that abuse can look is really important, especially in romantic relationships. Without providing reassurance, it's a huge green flag that your partner is mindful and listens to your concerns, while also dialing back the behaviors that are triggering to you. At this point, as an outsider it sounds to me like this is starting to be a cause for concern for your partner, and perhaps not in a way that's constructive anymore. It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp on the fact that your partner is listening and being mindful- to me, those two things alone are a big plus. Someone who was abusive nay not care about how their behavior makes you feel and continue treating you just the way they wanted to or worse. I don't want to say "if you were being abused you would know" because a lot of people can rationalize behaviors that are abusive. But to me, it sounds like your partner is listening. Not abusing.

You’re spiraling because you’re feeding the OCD. Sounds like your brain is trying to protect you by preventing any harm coming to you in the future…. But you may just need to tell OCD “screw you, I’ll take the risk” and stop trying to figure it out. All these things you’re doing are compulsions and making the obsession feel more intense. If you stop doing them, the anxiety will fade

Are you still going through this? I am too and I am lost at what to do. Yesterday I was sitting outside with some friends talking about something shocking I had seen in front of me on the street and my boyfriend illustrated the expression “it was slapping you in the face” by doing fake slapping gestures to me and I got really triggered.