Gods voice Vs. OCD thoughts

I have been constantly ruminating about if God wants me to be with my boyfriend. I am so hyper fixated on Gods will for my life that I often overthink every move. I have constant “what if” thoughts or “if God wanted him in your life you wouldn’t be having these thoughts”. I can’t differentiate Gods voice with my thoughts. What if this is God speaking? I also keep seeing TikToks that say if God wanted this person in your life they wouldn’t do blah blah blah. I am just not sure what to think anymore. I want to be with my boyfriend and he wants to be with me. However, as of lately we have been having some issues because we show our love differently. Then I see these TikToks saying that the right person will love you the way you need to be loved naturally, nothing will ever need to be forced, rhat I’m forcing a rib into the wrong man, etc. and then I’m like is this God talking through these videos saying I shouldn’t be with my boyfriend? I am not sure what to think. I just feel like my mind is in a constant spiral and I get so confused.

Louise b

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3d

Gods voice does not produce doubt. Period. OCD is the doubting disorder. Take every question and what if as another ocd trick to keep you stuck. It is not your job to differentiate between Gods voice and your own thoughts. I would suggest responding to each question that pops in your head concerning relationship and spirituality with a prevention message. One like “I don’t need to answer that question to move forward in my relationship” or “I’m going to allow this doubt and confusion over these questions (is this Gods voice ? Is this me? Am I in the right relationship? Etc) to go unanswered. I will sit with this as I live my life the way I desire to”

Anonymous

Date posted: 3d

Thank you for sharing this. I’m going through the same thing with my best friend. I was having some doubts (not about the friendship exactly) due to a mistake I made and the thought came into my head so clearly “don’t be friends” and it alarmed me because she’s my best friend. I am scared that it was God’s voice telling me that and now I’m in distress. Every sermon and song is now suddenly “affirming” my fear. It feels so all or nothing and I don’t think God speaks to us that way. I believe that if God was speaking to us it would be clear and not distressing. As I type this my brain goes “but the thought was clear” so I don’t know. But I don’t think Gods plan for us is to live in doubt and anxiety so I don’t think God would speak to us in a way that causes uncertainty and doubt and rash all or nothing decisions. I am still praying for clarity and I encourage you to do so as well. I hope that it is okay that I pray for you.

Smolbean

Date posted: 3d

Hey there, I’d encourage you to lean into what you know about God and what kinds of relationships God wants you to have. If your boyfriend is kind, treats you with respect, is serious about his faith journey, and does things to make you feel pursued and special, then your internal doubt is likely OCD attacking something good. God would not lead you away from something good. Maybe try talking through your love languages with your boyfriend and see if you can find some common ground. Hang in there! OCD gets easier to manage as you learn to recognize it 🫶

Waging War A...

Date posted: 3d

Well I couldn't find my recent post. So here is the shortish version: After years of trying to figure out how to hear God's voice in the middle of all the OCD chaos, and praying for wisdom too - God showed me the following 3 verses. Galatians 5:22–23 (NASB 1995) says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” But wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruit, unwavering, without hypocrisy. —James 3:17 (NASB 1995) Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God, who also made us adequate as servants of a new covenant, not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life. —2 Corinthians 3:5–6 (NASB 1995) So if we compare the fruit of our thoughts to the above, do they match? For example, looking at the thought "I have to wash my hands right now, and do it perfectly! Or my grandma will get sick and die." This doesn't match with James 3:17....b/c its not reasonable (there are millions of germs that could sicken your grandma before you're "dirty" hands got get sick....its not full of mercy - it puts your grandma's entire future in your hands - that is not at all merciful, it is brutal. It's not unwavering....b/c on another day the fear would latch onto something else....maybe it would be the dirt on your shoes that could kill her, or maybe the fear would be about another person you love. So back to a larger issue such as yours - one thing that helped me was realizing God is so kind and gentle. He won't let you accidentally make a terribly wrong decision. Rather he guides us as a loving Father would. I hope this helps!

Anonymous

Date posted: 3d

Please don’t take advice from TikTok. All relationships require some level of effort and work; none are naturally perfect!

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 20w

Pls I need advice

I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now

Anonymous

Date posted: 14w

Religious OCD Scrupulosity

Hello everyone. I was just wanting to post on here regarding a situation that I have been dealing with for a few months now. I have been taking my walk with Christ seriously for about a year now and ever since I started I’ve noticed a bunch of intrusive thoughts and it’s caused me much distress. It all started back in June of 2024. I missed a church service because my wife and I were taking care of our daughter and I went to a Best But store and upgraded my old Apple Watch to a new one. I felt like doing so I committed idolatry because I went and bought that instead of going to church. I felt immense guilt for doing so and the next day I cancelled my order. I thought that maybe I was over thinking the entire thing so I went ahead and placed a new order and got the watch. For two weeks after getting the watch, I ruminated about whether I should keep it or not. It didn’t feel right with me and was overwhelmed with guilt for having it and it was debilitated with anxiety and stress. Eventually I decided I would just give it back so I went to go return it on the last day I could do so only to find out I could not. I thought that was a sign from God that I could keep it. I felt the most relief after that that I had experienced in quite awhile but then the next day after I started have thoughts again thinking that I didn’t try hard enough to return it and that I’m some how putting it before God. Well eventually I came to terms that there was nothing I could do about it and I was able to stop worrying about it being an idol. Well my mind jumped from that to another thing in my life and this one has been harder to get over. I have been on hair loss medication for 7 years and I had a thought one day telling me that “if I’m a true follower of Christ, then I shouldn’t take the medicine because I’m placing too much importance on my looks” I again felt immense anxiety and dread and tried fighting these thoughts away but could not help but think” what if it is and this is conviction of the Holy spirit”? I would constantly look up online any answers I could find to help relieve my anxiety but I can’t. I pray to God all the time for his will to be done in this situation and sometimes I feel better but then it all comes back. It’s hard for me to read the Bible because there’s so much about idolatry I always feel like it’s God talking to me like it’s a sign or if I’m just taking it that way? I asked God to show give me an answer about this situation and a day later a YouTuber I follow posted a video about removing idols from our lives. I felt that was God speaking to me or wasn’t sure maybe it was a coincidence? I just feel so cornered and out under so much pressure on what to do. Of course I would like to keep taking my medicine because it has helped me but then I have thoughts that tell me it is an idol because I am not able to give it up. I cut back taking the medicine a lot more often over the last months but I don’t know if this is God telling me to do so or my own mind. Like if I want to keep my hair I believe God allows healing through medication and it’s a gift. But these thoughts are telling me that I rely on taking it and it’s an idol and that unless I give it up completely I’m not following God’s will and it’s an idol. It’s caused immense doubt because then I read Romans 14 and it says anything you do with doubt is sin because it’s not of faith. I feel like I’m being attacked and cornered because I’m forced to stop taking something that has helped me. Now I have thoughts telling me to stop wearing my retainers every night because I got Invisalign a few years back to fix my teeth and that unless I stop taking my medication and wearing my retainers I’m not authentically following God. I don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t want to go against God and I don’t want to commit idolatry. I know God is all loving so I doubt this is all coming from him. I have to take/wear these things daily for them to work and the ocd will twist that in saying they are idols because of that and I just feel so cornered and defeated. I try to find things constantly online to see if anyone else has similar issues but I can’t. I know this is a long post but just trying to get some clarity on the matter. What should I do to help my situation?

Religion & Spirituality OCD

Starve_The M...

Date posted: 7w

To my Christian brothers and sisters

Hi I have a question. I love jesus he changed my life and Made me a better person but my ocd loves to confuse me so I have a problem where I remember something in the past and I repented ofc but not it makes me question my intentions and my ocd always puts the are you lying to God card which makes me super scared and then doubt occurs and I'm so exhausted I misinterpret a lot like the voice of God I keep hearing tell the truth and repent now that's it all Good if it were true see ik I'm telling the truth not because of some feeling it's because ocd's version is so ridiculous but It feels soo real I just Want go to God without feeling this fear if I'm lying to him and I fear if somehow I'm wrong. So much anxiety and questions like what if that is gods voice what if I'm wrong pls pray for me and I see videos and I'm scared if that video was sent to me by God telling me to "tell the truth" I say that because my ocd is causing me to doubt the truth being that ocd is wrong

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