Would i know if i am losing feelings for my partner? How would i know? I feel disconnected and irritated by him recently and its scaring me that ive lost feelings and just dont want to leave because i am comfortable
So you are going through what I have at times. Let me break it down for you. Your brain can only be ecstatic about something new for so long. 2ish years is about that time in a relationship where your mind goes “wow I am comfortable with this person, they are home to me” which is NOT a butterflies feeling. You know their quirks, their annoyances, but yet you also can feel your connection with how deep you know and love each other. Love is a choice, not a feeling, not attraction, not sexual desire, not butterflies. An active choice. You cannot fall in or out of love without choosing that or committing action.
@mcocd This is my first relationship that is going to last over 2 years and it scares me that i will waste time. Like what happens if in 6 years i dont wanna be with him anymore??? Like i cant even imagine that bc it gives me so much anxiety. I dont feel the want to be intimate as much anymore, i feel annoyed, i see his flaws and mine. It makes me feel like im losing faith even though i dont want to :(
@gia wyer Not wanting to shows that this is an intrusive thought or a worry. You can’t predict the future, but you can determine your actions now to control that future. Commitment is love, showing care and kindness is love, that stays and will grow as long as you work towards it together. Love is a beautiful thing, but it’s imperfect and is never 100% all the time.
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@Anonymous Thank you for replying, we have been together for almost 2 years and literally nothing is wrong. He is perfect and treats me so well. We do have a few differences but nothing drastic that can damage the relationship. Nothing specific has made me irritated, its just in general. Like when we arent together i miss him but then when he comes home and we are together im like not as clingy as i used to be. Its making me feel like i dont love him anymore and its scaring me bc i did see a future with him. My ocd completely ruined that vision and now i question myself even though i know we are compatible. Its so hard
@Anonymous Thank you for your input. Im new to ocd so im still trying to navigate. I feel so alone sometimes:(
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@Anonymous Can i ask how much you pay for your therapy? That is literally the only thing holding me back
@Anonymous Can you check out my new post?
@Anonymousbubblebubble Yes the US is very expensive when it comes to therapy
Wanna marry my partner , have no excitement feelings? Scared to lose attraction? Can’t see clear? Even though I have every right and reason to
I’ve looked at my boyfriend’s looks for so long that I really hope I value him as a person like he values me. I’ve entered into a mature love, that’s beyond feelings. But I want that attraction back like how can I grow my feelings towards him? Why does it feel so bleh or not like when I first meet a guy and I’m getting to know him? Comfortable?
Is it normal to miss your partner when they are gone but when they get back you feel irritated and you dont even wanna be around them
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