Basically my good friend came out as bi. We were talking about how our parents would be if we said we had a boyfriend and she was like they wouldn’t be happy if she got a boyfriend let alone a girlfriend. I want to be supportive of her but when she said it I got wave anxiety and I feel like she might of thought I wasn’t supportive. So when ever I see her I feel like I have to be over happy like smiling and waving just so she doesn’t think I judge her which I don’t. Before hocd I just thought of being bi, gay, lesbian as normal as being straight even though my parents were homophobic and now I believe in my heart that but my brain has other things to say about it. So I don’t know what to do because I feel like I’m going back as this happened before when this other girl was bi, I would get such anxiety sitting next to her.

That’s how I felt too as soon as my friend came out as a lesbian 5 years ago. Despite my upbringing, I was really supportive of her until my mom kept telling me not to let her turn me “gay” and that’s when my HOCD started. It’s hard to come across this, especially dealing with HOCD, but she will always be your friend no matter what. Focus on your friendship, not her sexuality (which I think you’re already doing)

The only thing is I had a thought a while ago she was lesbian, and just said it’s your hocd again. And put it to rest but then she comes out as bi. Like I’m not stressed about it now as I’m just like it’s just a coincidence probably and that it doesn’t mean everyone I thought was gay/bi including myself is. But yeah at the end of the day it doesn’t change anything she’s still going to be my friend .

your heart is right