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- rlr
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- 5y ago
It could be a combination of it all, tbh; just know you're not alone!
Bruh I ain’t got no friends but I’ve got ppl to talk to if I need help. The reason I don’t have friends is not because I’m a bully it’s because the ppl who I be with in my adulthood is the ppl I can consider friends. Dats on periottttt
Sounds like all three could contribute. And I think some cognitive reframing could really help you. Have you learned CBT with a licensed therapist? OCD, anxiety, and depression all have a tendency to make us see the world through certain cognitive distortions that make everything seem magnified, black/white, and pessimistic. But our thoughts/feelings are just that: feelings. They aren’t necessarily true and CBT is a very useful tool for starting to see the world more clearly. Seeing the world as more neutral and without judgment can really change your life.
Do u work here?
@Peridottttt Work where? If you mean the app, no.
@pureolife Oh you sound professional ??
thank u for this! and yes I do cbt with a licensed therapist and we go over cognitive distortions which I have a lot of and I sometimes can recognize them but it’s really hard to get myself to stop thinking in those ways :/
@rlr Don’t worry about stopping yourself from thinking it, just focus on reframing it once you do think it. The more you practice challenging your thoughts, the more likely they are to change over time. But they don’t need to be suppressed and you shouldn’t feel guilty or bad about having them. That’s just how your brain works right now and it’s very changeable with practice. Keep reframing! And don’t beat yourself up so much when it’s hard. It can be REALLY hard to do when we’re suffering.
@pureolife thank you so much I really needed this ❤️ have a great day or night wherever you are in the world ?
Ugh I feel you. I feel like such a burden because of my ocd. I’m constantly complaining about my anxiety and I’m always freaked out about something. I feel like none of my friends like me anymore because they act so annoyed with me. It sucks. I wish they could understand that it’s not easy to get by everyday with all these different thoughts going around in our heads. We want help can’t help it, and sadly they don’t bother to try and understand and support us. I guess it makes sense, not having ocd makes it easy to judge us who do have it and view our obsessions as crazy and a waste of time. I’m working on having my friends understand how my mind works and they’re getting better. I hope things get better for you too. If anyone is judging you for your anxiety take the time to explain to them How it makes you feel. They won’t understand on their own. I’ve learned that.
Unrelated to OCD, I just want to go off for a couple of sentences: I have no friends or any memories to look back on. Never been on a date or had someone who cared about me. I’m tired of being alone, it’s one of the reasons that I have so many mental health issues. I have always had no friends. Never been out or anything. I’m tired of this loneliness and I’m almost 20, I can’t make anymore friends because it’s not the same when you’re an adult. That’s all.
Feeling really alone. I feel like I’ve burned out my friends with my OCD so now when I have even a non OCD issue come up, they’re already starting off on an annoyed foot. Just feeling really alone and sad right now. My grandma was my best friend and she died in 2021 and I just have felt lost since. Like no one left on this earth really loves me
I literally Dont. And I have no one to talk to. My husband hates me and yells at me about my ocd daily so much so that I’ve started hurting myself again. I don’t know what to do. I haven’t cut myself in years. But I have been doing it for the last week. I can talk to my dad but he thinks I am normal. And I don’t want to ruin that. I haven’t talked to my mom in almost a year and she has ocd and she’s a narcissistic and just so mean. I am lost and feel like there no reason to try anymore. It’s all been hell since I can remember being alive. I wish I was never born.
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