is it possible to even have a relationship while i’m suffering with real event ocd and ocd in general. i’m just so scared they’ll find out everything bad i’ve done and leave me
I'm going through exactly this. I feel like everything I've ever done will come to the surface and I'll die in prison knowing that they hate me. Ocd attacks what we love and it attacks what we regret. I take this as a sign that I must really love them.
I have this too. I remind myself that no one is perfect and try to have grace for myself. I also remind myself that if I think one obsession will go away, then another always pops up- OCD will keep pestering so waiting on living life until the anxiety is gone is just another OCD tactic. I do highly recommend having a good set of tools to use to battle the OCD. There’s a self compassion workbook you can buy that’s really helpful for OCD too
@r.m.1 thank you so much what’s it called?
I get the feeling. In the end, I just work on pushing past those worries and focusing on the good things about me as well as the life I want to have. Anything else is less important- certainly not important enough to mean I shouldn't try
having this exact problem rn :/ like i feel undeserving of a relationship at all, especially because of my real events. but i told my therapist abt it and they told me that when i find that person, they’ll understand that i’m not defined by my thoughts or past mistakes. ig at the end of the day just working to better yourself and focusing on the positive is all you can do. i like to at least hold out hope that everything else will fall into place, even if it doesn’t feel feasible sometimes 🫶
Can relate
i’ve been going through this exact situation for a month now and it’s absolutely agonizing. i have so much disgust for myself because of my real event ocd and i’m terrified that if i ever tell my partner about this (or if she finds out another way) she will feel those same feelings of disgust towards me and never look at me the same again. right now i’m working on unconditional self acceptance and self compassion because i know that i cannot control how my partner thinks or feels about me, but i can control how i feel about myself.
I ruin every single relationship that I'm in with my OCD I admit every single thing I do even when it really isn't a big deal ,if I don't admit I feel unbearable anxiety and I don't know what to do about it , I'm always on edge worried I've done something wrong always searching my mind and actions for a slip up it's exhausting I keep spiralling wondering if I will ever actually be with someone and be able to have a happy and healthy relationship Please tell me I'm not alone I don't know what else to do
If I manage to get a girlfriend will the ocd go away or will it get worse and be combined with rocd aka “what if I don’t actually like her and want to be with a guy” and then it will all go downhill. If that’s the case I don’t think I should start a relationship because I dont want the girl to go through all that.
for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
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