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cold sore anxiety, i’m spiraling so rapidly rn
tw; !! sex, lgbtq, cold sores, anxiety !! okay so i haven’t been on NOCD since 2023. i need help so bad. i know i need to go to therapy, but i honestly just don’t have the money for it unfortunately. i was hoping to get some help. i’ve been with my girlfriend for three years, and we have a beautiful relationship. and an even more beautiful, healthy sex life; up until a year ago that is. she’s known i get cold sores every now and then since i met her. and i let her know that because it was fair and right. she never minded, and i never really..paid attention to them? i guess. well i got like 4-5 outbreaks in the last 5 years before april of 2023 and haven’t had one since. well i know that lip tingling or burning can be a sign of a cold sore appearing, yet one day in september last year, i ignored it (thinking it wasn’t that serious) and gave my girlfriend oral sex. afterwards, i thought i saw something on my lip and freaked the fuck out. like i genuinely didn’t sleep for days and cried so hard for hours on end. she was clearly upset with me for not mentioning the tingling to her and thought i could’ve possibly maybe transferred it to her. well nothing ever popped up on my lip, but since that day i haven’t been able to give her oral sex (we’re two women so giving head is a main intimate thing for us both) and it’s hard to kiss her because every time i think about the thought of a cold sore, my lip tingles. and i looked it up, and it says “if your lip tingles, a cold sore will pop up 48 hours later at least”. so when i feel the “tingle” i wait 2 days to kiss/be intimate with her. and nothing comes of it because i think the “tingle” is usually my anxiety. but i can’t decipher at the moment. so this cycle of “tingle > no sex/kisses for two days > no cold sore > “tingle” >” and so on so forth has been going on for a year and i don’t know what the fuck to do. my life is so fucking draining right now because we used to have such a deep connection sexually and now i’m letting her down and it’s so fucking hard because i don’t want to lose her. but i’m trying so hard i just don’t know what to do i’m breathing so hard just writing this. just someone please point me in the right direction.