whenever i think of things i want to think about like sxual things with people my age i don’t feel anything down there but when i think about things i don’t want to think about i feel something down there is this an indication that i’m a bad person idk what to do it feels like this is solid proof in this bad person
Do you feel anxiety when you get those feelings? Do they fill you with dread? If so it’s possible that the thoughts are impacting your sex drive, and that is exactly what groinal response does, ruins your real desires by giving you these responses trying to convince you that you are something that you aren’t
@Fcukocd i feel anxiety whenever i get thoughts and the feelings i get so frustrated and have to block it out of my mind bc i don’t want to think about it but it’s so bad now bc whenever i’m being sexual with someone and i get a feeling down there, i automatically get intrusive thoughts that ruin the whole thing
@angel 🪽 Yeah I know exactly what u mean, that sounds like typical OCD
@Fcukocd i just want it to go away why won’t it go away
@angel 🪽 It will in time, are you getting therapy?
@Fcukocd i did for awhile but i had to stop bc we moved house and the sessions were expensive
please i’m so anxious
hi i am here
@rentrograde i’m going to be typing comments but i just wanted to let you know someone (me) is here
@rentrograde thank you so much i’m really struggling rn and idk what to do
i had REALLY intense intrusive thoughts when my OCD hit its peak 1.5yr ago, and this seemingly “endless” cycle of thoughts can become rumination when you let yourself entertain your intrusive thoughts. for most of my life i’ve used a specific motto or key phrase to break these cycles (also called thought spirals), and they came in handy during ERP. 1) “1st thought is intrusive, 2nd thought is truthful” 2) even just taking a deep breath and thinking “break the thought cycle” can be grounding 3) put your phone down. this is so hard but my phone is an OCD echo chamber
@rentrograde if your heart rate is really elevated and/or you’re hyperventilating, doing shaking exercises can be helpful or stretching on a yoga mat or anything active (because you are overflowing with anxiety you need an outlet)
@rentrograde i heard this too and for awhile it helped me but then it just ended up backfiring on me. i’ve been doing well this year, my ocd hasn’t been too bad with the help of medication but today it’s just it feels like proof
@rentrograde the best thing i ever did for myself at the start of recovery is to make a battle plan for when i get panic attacks. you do Not need to worry about this now. BUT when you have time, think about 3 things: identify WHO you can trust and talk to identify WHERE you can go physically to rest/relax (a park, public library, one of mine is my best friends house) identify WHAT you can do in the meantime (putting down phone, crafting, walking outside, drawing, shaking, stretching, reading, whatever brings you joy and peace)
@angel 🪽 i feel this so hard but i’m so proud of you for reaching out for support, i know how scary it is
i have a migraine rn so i gotta put my phone down but you got this, remember you have lived through every single day of your life to this very moment. and you will make it to tomorrow, and you will be okay i promise you that i am living proof of that, my story is too long for a comment but i truly went through hell and back and you can find a community in any place ok? and you’re proving that by reaching out to this online community. you seriously got this!!!
@rentrograde thank you so much for your comments and support, they really helped me a lot 🫶 i hope your migraine gets better!
Anxiety can show itself in pelvic sensations also. It sounds like you might have some checking compulsions for your OCD! Meaning you check your groinal response to see which thought has more arousal. This is a tricky thing OCD does to try and find certainty in what you’re trying to figure out (if you’re a bad person) Try your best to not do any checking compulsions. POCD is a very difficult theme to experience, but it can be conquered through ERP and hard work 🙂
Does anyone else when they have the thoughts, they feel against it, but they still get arousal or tenglings sensations in the groinal area? Because this is what I experienced today and I feel like crap. This is going to be very triggering for a lot of you, but there are a lot of times that I notice things from kids. For example, there is a thirteen year old kid who looks very developed for her age, and I take notice of (and this already sounds creepy to me) her chest. Today with my thoughts, I imagined as if I were touching it, and although I usually "no no or "I don't want to do that", she is a kid, etc., I still get responses in my groinal area, and It felt very real. Even now, I feel as though I am faking it, even though I groan 😮💨 from it, and feel as though I am a fraud. Does anyone relate?
Last night I was self pleasuring. I didn’t set out to think about anything weird but as I was doing it some pocd thoughts were in my brain. I did not get off to them, but I could have. Idk why that is but it is. Idk what to do and idk why I am this way. Is there some science about the brain while aroused or is it possible that the more gross or taboo something is I can like it?? Idk, just want to know if anyone can relate.
Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
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