Upset and distraught with my experience

I spent 7+ months opening up to my therapist, telling her about the most painful experience in my life and severe OCD that came with all of it. One day I get a call that she randomly left. I thought something happened to her, I was so worried. Just before, she had acted normal and even slapped a “conquerer” label on me probably to just end on good terms. It doesn’t feel good, especially because I thought she was human centered and that we atleast had a decent relationship for her to give me a heads up, even if it was off the books. It makes me feel like how my ex made me feel, who discarded me. And come to find out, she opened her own practice. And she didn’t even let me know or even cared about me, enough to bring me with her. Reading her bio on her new website is comical to me, because basically f your old patients. The conquerer label means nothing to me in terms how I was given it.

Clairenz

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: Yesterday

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would also feel upset about that.. I would have thought if they got a new job she would have told you... Unless they are not allowed to do that with nocd? I think whatever the reason... Give yourself some time be gentle with yourself. Your success is yours though. You did that. It's not dependant on a person. You were brave and did the hard things. And I still find therapy hard. It's hard being vulnerable. But you made a decision to live a better life and whatever therapist you have next.. Hold onto that. Build on what you have and keep going. ✌️I struggle every day but I am going to keep going anyway. 😊

Mher545

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 22h

@Clairenz Thank you Clairenz, you’re very kind ❤️❤️❤️❤️

24ozpersepho...

Date posted: 15h

I agree that there should’ve been a conversation, but therapists aren’t allowed to take their patients with them to new practices. She might not have been able to say she was leaving. There’s a lot of semantics with leaving a practice and starting your own. I wouldn’t assume the worst. Maybe she dealt with it in the only way she could. I understand that it doesn’t feel good tho. Sucky feeling for sure. How do you know that she wasn’t waiting for you to become a conquerer before ending treatment? You don’t have to assume that she just slapped the label on you for no reason. As I’m sure you know, stuff happens that hurts. All we can do is sit with the discomfort and let the thoughts wash over us. Don’t let the pain get in the way of being proud of yourself for becoming a conquerer! I know I’m proud of you.

Mher545

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 15h

@24ozpersephonenoice Yes I can understand if they’re not allowed to take their patients to new practices. But there’s also an ethical consideration, it’s a therapists job to include a smooth transition. Not just up and leave, even when they called me - they also told me over the phone that it was very out of no where. Just the day before she sent me a message, literally saying that she was excited to continue working and gave me homework. That’s a choice she made. And as a therapist she should know how that may affect her patients. Saying that she’s dealing with the way she can, makes sense but it doesn’t change the fact it’s not right. And yes, I can reasonably assume she slapped that label on me because I was not fully out of my symptoms and we we were working through homework, plus she gave it to me right before she left. There are valid assumptions. I’m proud of you too, and yes I know that - thank you ❤️

rosecarman

Date posted: 23w

Bad therapy experience

Every therapist I’ve tried for OCD has felt dehumanizing and judgy, as if I’m the threat not my OCD. I’m still looking for a good therapist. Have you ever had a bad therapy experience?

hereintheUK

Date posted: 20w

Feel slapped in the face…..

So having not even made headway yet with sessions with my latest therapist (not NOCD) she has just left me hanging saying I’ve got too anxious and I need to increase my Remeron before she continues with me and won’t even give me a date to start again……… I don’t really want to increase my meds as it was what she was saying to me in therapy that upset me, or is it really supposed to get worse before it gets better? My career that I worked so hard for is literally hanging by a thread and her doing this to me means I have to stay off work longer and I’m just really upset by her actions and the potential knock on effects of this 😢

Anonymouus

Date posted: 17w

wanting to fire my OCD therapist

A couple of weeks ago I went through a breakup and was mental reviewing and ruminating the entire relationship. My therapist asked me if we can’t talk about and focus on the OCD treatment (my main themes). I am surprised that my therapist did not recognize that this new situation in my life is turning into another one of my obsession. And the constant talking about it is ruminating and my inability to sit with uncertainly and discomfort of the breakup (ROCD) is OCD and thus needs to be worked on. I am really beginning to question how much he understands OCD and I’m surprised that as the client I have to educate him on it. I have been working with him for many months and I don’t think I’m making process. I’m also having a hard time connecting with him. I want to terminate. I can’t do this. Also in terms of my main theme, I also had to teach him that to some degree. He also doesn’t know terms like “mental review” or “ROCD”. Like the words we all associate with when it comes to OCD. I’m getting not so good vibes. How do I leave?!?

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