I know you aren’t supposed to look into reassurance but does that mean you can’t offer advice to peoples struggling ? Therapy isn’t an option for some of us and I would love to hear some natural ways y’all use to help better yourself but nobody eve responds to my posts
Hi! Reassurance is saying "It's ok" or "nothing bad is going to happen," while advice is providing skills or techniques that can help you sit with your discomfort! If you're posting with the intention of having people take your distress away, you're seeking reassurance or posting in a compulsive way, and no matter what it will further your distress and compulsive cycle. There are a lot of free resources out there for you to try as well. I recommend checking out the OCD & Anxiety YouTube Channel. He has a lot of ERP tips and strategies that you can try. Obviously, meeting with an expert in OCD and ERP is usually the most effective, but using the strategies you can find for free is a good thing until you're able to get professional treatment. I highly recommend allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable and to tell the OCD gremlin in your brain to pound sand because you're not listening to it anymore. Seek out the things that distress you, and when doing so remind yourself that your discomfort is not danger. That way you learn that you can handle those feelings and that OCD does not have to dictate how you live your life. You got this!
@Marie Connelly “pound sand” I gotta use that more.
@Anonymous - :) Be my guest!
Something that completely changed my relationship with my ocd and anxiety is telling myself “talk to the thought not the anxiety” and it’s helped drastically. I always would just say my rpm in hopes to get rid the of anxiety but one night it clicked to just say it to the thoughts I’m having and the anxiety will slowly fade. My favorite rpm are “I can do hard things, I can sit with fear, who cares and oh well” You’re stronger than you think you’ve got this 🫶🏻
@kna26 What is rpm?
@mberri Response prevention message!
@kna26 Thank you, I will try repeating it to myself
@kna26 I think I came up with my own one yesterday. I said, "So what?" To a thought I had and it sort of helped.
Lots of reasons. Your post is seeking reassurance even if you don’t think/know it is, people are busy so they’re just scrolling and not replying, people don’t know how to help you because they’re struggling, etc.
I know right now i shouldnt ask for reassurance... and that its unhealthy... but right now i am so triggered by the events on my previous post and I just need someone to respond so so basly...
I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?
I have something that’s been on my mind but my post isn’t getting any interaction. Only offer advice if you’re willing to respond please!!! People have asked me in the comments to share something and I do and they never answer which makes my mental even worse
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