Advice please!!!

Has anyone ever dealt with relationship ocd and feeling guilty for not sharing every thought and feeling with your spouse that feels it was unfaithful? Mine is stemming back to an old memory of when we were just dating and had broken up. A friend of my sisters was childishly flirting with me and I felt like I secretly liked the attention. Kept thinking what if something else had happened and what if he did stay at my house one night but he never did. It just makes me feel extreme guilty for even thinking and feeling these things of even being partial to that idea at that time I was broken up and going through that small rough area. I feel like I am keeping something from my husband since I never told him this. I just wish I could move on from this. I don’t know why I feel like everything in my life needs to be known to him. Why do I feel so guilty. I hate it!

myfunnyvalen...

Date posted: Yesterday

Often times in relationships it can feel like you have to your partner everything, because most of the time you do that anyways! OCD will latch onto ANYTHING to get you to fall into that spiral of fear and uncertainty. Since OCD reflects the opposite of our true feelings, it will put as much doubt in your mind as it can. Don’t let it! You and your husband are happily married now, that’s something to celebrate! There’s things we dot share with our friends, family, etc, because they’re seen as unimportant or simply irrelevant. Treat this as something irrelevant and not let it ruin your day! Hang in there!!💕💕💕

Stopoverthin...

Date posted: Yesterday

@myfunnyvalentine Thanks, I used to be on medication but haven’t been on them since I became pregnant. So I think it’s amping up a bit but I really don’t want this to ruin my last pregnancy and feel depressed. I keep telling myself thoughts are not facts. I remember even talking to my sister about it and she thought I sounded crazy bc she knew nothing wrong had happened and “that’s just how her friend is he flirts with everyone” but I guess bc my mind slipped and I liked that attention and had all these what ifs in my head has made me feel horrible about it.

myfunnyvalen...

Date posted: Yesterday

@Stopoverthinking_01 I completely understand where you’re coming from. Pregnancy can definitely be amping it up, all the hormones are everywhere. Have you ever looked into natural remedies for anxiety and nervous system regulation. A dis regulated nervous system can sometimes be the cause for this. I’d talk to your doctor about maybe finding some natural resources if you’re not sure about taking medicine for when pregnant. I’m only 20 and I’m not even married, but there are a few different things I use to manage OCD naturally since I don’t really qualify for taking prescription. I think I could benefit you tremendously☺️

Stopoverthin...

Date posted: Yesterday

@myfunnyvalentine No I haven’t but I’ll look into this! I’m going to keep telling myself these thoughts are irrelevant because they are. I highly doubt my husband tells Me every small detail in his life or things from the past.

#happiness

Date posted: Yesterday

I used to have moments like this

Stopoverthin...

Date posted: Yesterday

@#happiness What helped you? Was there anything you would tell yourself that helped the thought pass?

#happiness

Date posted: Yesterday

@Stopoverthinking_01 No it was before I knew it was ocd. I always confessed

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