Just need to get this out

I told my girlfriend of 1.5 months that I loved her. She said it back, but that she had been planning something to do that. We were both awkward when I said it, and I know I looked really anxious before and after I said it. She also said I caught her in a rough time cause she had a bad sleep and all that. I’m worried that I said it too soon, or that I or she wasn’t ready. Partially I said it because I felt like I had a time limit; she was going to Florida tomorrow, and I was so anxious about saying it before then, or else something would go wrong. But now I texted her to have a nice drive to her home town and she hasn’t responded. I feel like I should’ve just planned a gesture for after she got back from Florida in the first place, and I still will.

RRazz

Date posted: 2d

@sivel That's awesome dude! Maybe keep it simple & trust in her character. Counteract your intrusive worry with proof of her honesty. Imo things seem to be in a good place It probably feels weird only cuz you said I love you and then she went on a trip. Once she gets back you'll be entering a whole new chapter of your relationship bro! My wife & I said ily a few weeks in. We've been married for 27 years. Focus Forward 🤘🏻

sivel

Date posted: Yesterday

@RRazz We’ve been texting normally now, and she apologized (with no prompting) about her slightly rough reaction; she said her family’d been stressing her out, but that that’s not an excuse. I was also worried about how anxious I appeared when I said it; I know she probably doesn’t care, but what if I looked to feminine and now she got the ick? Idk where that thought came from cause I wasn’t raised in toxic masculinity, and my gf doesn’t care much about masculinity

RRazz

Date posted: Yesterday

I think it was masculine & brave to make the first move and say that you loved her. That shits not easy man. She probably appreciates that. To her you may have just looked nervous and nothing more...cuz your human & not perfect 🤘🏻

RRazz

Date posted: Yesterday

Be careful not to assume. Remind yourself that your intrusive thoughts are not built of facts but assumptions of what your girlfriend's thinking.

RRazz

Date posted: 2d

I have the same intrusive thought as you do. If I don't say I love you to my kids or loved ones every time they go somewhere or we hang up the phone or during our last text of the night, I'm filled with extreme worry that something will go wrong. I'm actually working on that exact intrusive thought at therapy rn. Imo as far as saying I love you to your GF and feeling like it's too soon depends on how you're looking at it. I feel like time isn't the problem, when you know you know & the vibe of your relationship made you feel comfortable to say how you feel. Did she say it back? Also, does she know about your OCD?

sivel

Date posted: 2d

@RRazz She knows about my OCD and she did say it back twice. We’ve been really comfortable with one another over our relationship. We’ve texted a bit since then as well, and she’s not changed the way she texts. But my OCDs telling me she’s texting normal to hide the fact that she’s actually uncomfortable (which isn’t something she’d do - she’s never hidden feelings, whether positive or negative)

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