ICE, ROCD

I'm so sorry y'all in Minneapolis are going through this. I've been keeping up with everything, and it's horrible. Rest in peace to the souls lost this month... You all are so strong. Seeing the community come together to support each other through all the wickedness has been really moving. Please stay safe out there 🫂💔 I don't really have any advice for ROCD besides just trying the best you can to sit with whatever feelings are surfacing right now. I'm not in a relationship, but I've been experiencing a similar frustration. Do you have a therapist you're seeing who can help you through this? :(

Sending love and support. The world we are living in is just not normal

First, I'm sorry your going through this. OCD is hard enough on it's own. It is OK to feel distant sometimes. It's normal to not see eye to eye on everything, sometimes even important things. Not everyone reacts to situations, including injustice, the same. I know when my anxiety or another negative emotion is running high I'm less likely to have patience for what I perceive as apathy or lack of human decency. I've also found some people have a blindspot I wish I could understand but no amount of rumination or research has provided me a satisfying answer. Yet some people with those blindspots are loving, good people. All this to say you don't need to figure anything out in this moment. Feelings are just feelings and thoughts are just thoughts. Stay warm. Stay safe. We're all in this together.

NOCD should be a place of politics-free help, not reddit. Whatever side you stand on, this will predictably devolve into some political debate rather than help with OCD that we all suffer from. Maybe instead of making it about something specific like ICE, next time say "we argue over politics" or something? That said, I like free speech so -- Overall, ICE is simply enforcing laws. The shootings have been unfortunate and controversial and I believe whenever something like that happens it needs an investigation - whatever side you stand on. It's possible to support ICE and also support accountability if it was determined they were out of line. But you have to look at it from law enforcement perspective too. They are potentially in life and death situations DAILY, so they're going to be (justifiably) on-edge. Common sense is -- maybe this isn't the best place to put them in a situation where they have to use split-second judgment of self-defense where they feel their life is at stake? ICE is cleaning up the mess of unabated illegal immigration for years. Nations have borders for a reason and a right to enforce their laws. This is not new or irrational, it's common sense. Previous presidents like Obama deported over 3 million illegals - where's the outrage? Whatever you do, please try to keep an open mind / be objective, think for yourself (instead of group-think) using logic, discernment, etc., while factoring in both sides of an argument / debate / issue, instead knee-jerk reacting by regurgitating whatever the media, govt, some celebrity, or peer pressure is indoctrinating people in. As this relates to OCD, you seem to have an all-or-nothing thinking - "ICE = bad/nazis, protestors = good." This isn't surprising the amount of years of indoctrination that is out there. And that your b/f is part of the "bad" if he's not as outraged as you.

I had a similar situation with my ex who did not seem to care about anything political and didn't show the same heart break and rage about the horrors going on in Palestine. I don't think he was a bad person and there were other cons in our relationship, but his lack of care in the matter, was a big deal to me. It was one of the factors that led me into breaking up with him. I don't think you're wrong for wanting someone who cares as much as you, but you know your relationship best obviously and I hope you make a decision that feels right to you!