How to deal with Uncertainty

There's a quote ny Elizabeth Gilbert I like to help me cope with uncertainty. "You're afraid of surrender because you don't want to lose control, but you never had control all you had was anxiety." My OCD often tells me it's irresponsible not to seek certainty and control. When I read that quote I remember my compulsions and ruminating never really gave me certainty or control, just the illusion of it. And when I realize certainty is an illusion it's easier for me to give myself permission to stop compulsively seeking it.

My advice as a young adult accept that we live our lives with uncertainty not to mention I you fear of doing something that shows your true self that you don't want to do that thing yes I'm uncertain but the fact that I worry is proof that I'm not going to do that and something else once you start to feel better OCD will say well you're not anxious about this anymore what if now you want to do it once that thought arrives once you feel calm that is something called the back door Spike I'm not telling you to rely on your reaction no or maybe a little but don't do that you have to understand yes it feels scary yes I'm scared of hurt someone yes I'm scared to do something sexual but the fact that I have concerns about it is good that shows who I really Am my advice play some video game hang out with friends be with family don't be by yourself isolation just makes things worse believe me