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One OCD tool I learned that may help is thinking “Maybe, or Maybe Not.” Maybe they’ll confront you and x, y, z, or maybe they won’t then x, y, z. Once you played out both scenarios, that’s it, then just try to be present and move on.

Without offering you reassurance I would encourage you to acknowledge that IF people confronted you, you could handle it! If someone gets upset about that and brings it up to you, in my opinion that is unreasonable. So, maybe think of how your time is valuable. Something that helps me is that I just use language with others about myself and my goals. For example: if a friend gets offended that I'm not talking to them as much, I say "I understand why you took that personally. But in fact it isn't personal; I am going through a growth period in which I'm trying to relate differently to others. So if you notice a change, please know it is nothing personal against you." .... this example wouldn't apply to your situation because these people aren't really a part of your life - you would not owe them any explanation. However, if you were confronted and felt you absolutely needed to say something in response, I would say "Hey ___, nice hearing from you. I am going through a change in how engage with social media, which means changing what shows up on my feed." That is the most I would suggest you respond if you were faced with the situation. However, no response is probably your best option. I think learning as an adult (one who struggles with overthinking and people pleasing) that not everything warrants a response has been very powerful for me. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let silence bring that person a little self awareness. And if it doesn't, it's not your problem, cause you didn't engage! Hope this helps you.