ROCD Question

I don't know how much this will help but sometimes it hits me that by analysing my partner to make sure everything is okay, I am doing the opposite because I am suffocating them with all the questions. So I try to lay off them and trust (this is kind of crucial) that they will communicate if something is wrong. Sometimes people will be in a bad mood or something and it has nothing to do with us. It's very important (for me it has been) to remind myself that :) it could help to establish this with your partner and create the space to have open communication like that so you don't need to do all the "guesswork" to see how he feels.

First, it’s important to say this: most people who come across as judgmental are not trying to hurt others. But when someone repeatedly hears, “You’re wrong,” “That’s not right,” or feels constantly corrected, the impact can feel like, “I’m not enough.” Sometimes judgment is really anxiety, perfectionism, or a need for control trying to create safety. Externally it can feel critical. Have you ever thought of introducing grace in your interactions? Grace means seeing others as equal to you ;imperfect, limited, learning, just like you. Grace means addressing behavior without attacking identity. Grace means using words that build up, even when you are pointing out a fault. Simple reminders: 1. Pause before correcting. 2. Ask, are my words building up or tearing down this person? 3. Speak to the behavior, not the person’s character. 4. Replace criticism with curiosity. 5. Start conversations with words of appreciation . 6. Let small things stay small. Grace is choosing to communicate with care and humility when speaking to others. Remember thar awareness is the beginning of change.