Should i get a new tharapist?

I’d RLLY like some advice if possible. I want to get the most help i can and I’m not sure if my new therapist is a good fit. Idk im just too sensitive but he’s every session session he says “if it’s true you have ocd” “if you have adhd” and it just irks me like idk 😭 he’s says it because he can’t diagnose me but like… I’ve been diagnosed for around 10 years at this point. like if my back hurts bc i have scoliosis or like if i tell him I’ve had a tonsillectomy i feel like he wouldn’t say “well if those things happened or were true” like idk 😭 I’ve never had anyone talk to me like that? I’ve brought it up once and he was like “ok i see i have to hedge w you” and im like??? What confuses me the most is that my psychiatrist is giving me new meds for ocd and SHES the one who reccomended him so im like??? Okay?! I feel that almost everything he says i already try to do. Except for an OCD worksheet. But my psychiatrist is the one who gave him the worksheet anyways. So when i flip the ocd paper over and see a thing that’s literally OCD why i don’t drive like ITS ON THE PAPER it just feels almost invalidating to be told yeah you might have issues. I want to keep going to therapy but im think maybe i should try again? And hes my first male therapist so i feel really awkward. I’d be willing to wait a long time if i have to even. OR im overthinking things and maybe i should go back and try to talk about him again even though it seems he doesnt want to.

raerae20

Date posted: 20h

nah dude that would honestly put me off too and if i was having a bad moment i could def spiral from it LMAO i’d say bring it up to him and see how he reacts to it and that’ll give you a better understanding of if you should stay with him or not

1Jwg3tb3tter

Date posted: 20h

@raerae20 Yeah I’ve been thinking about it nonstop, and i think about my breathing like he says to but it doesn’t help much imo. I’ll talk to him and see what he has to say. Thank you :)

Endlessly Po...

Date posted: 20h

I didn’t get better until I found the right therapist. It’s hard breaking up with your current therapist, but it could mean all the difference.

workingonthings

Date posted: 16h

I think you should find a new therapist that would make me mad too. I had a virtual therapist once who when on a video session would have their background image be a green screen that showed a more professional office, every time we were talking I could hear other people in the background, when I asked who it was they said their roommate, the therapist didn’t wear headphones so was this roommate hearing everything I said to my therapist, I brought up how I felt I couldn’t trust them since they always had a green screen on and I didn’t like how I couldn’t see who else could be in the room while I was bearing my soul or crying. They never would change the background to be normal so I had to find a new therapist.

1Jwg3tb3tter

Date posted: 13h

@workingonthings Oh man yeah I’d be so pissed if that happened to me! Also they could at least warn you first about that, that’d so weird! So sorry that happened but i hope you’ve found better support now :)

AllisonRojas

Date posted: 16h

I’m sure he’s a good therapist, but in your situation he sounds a bit dismissive and invalidating. I think it’s important to find a therapist you click with. I saw a talk therapist once who was a super kind and caring lady and I truly believe she wanted the best for me, but she made a joke about my son having “a little of that OCD.” It didn’t sit right with me, so I moved on. Sometimes it’s just that simple! No shame in trying again until you find the one who is right for you. I hope you find a wonderful therapist very soon 🩷

1Jwg3tb3tter

Date posted: 13h

@AllisonRojas Yeah that’s how i felt by him too. I think it’s good you recognized immediately that it wouldn’t work out for you after that and were able to leave. I guess i am talking it up to be way more intense than just telling him about it and asking for a new one. I appreciate the advice and and im glad you could move on :)

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