Why false memory feel so real & why do reasurance

I have tried many methods to get rid of this disease by watching online on YouTube but nothing came of it. Whenever a thought comes to my mind, I start thinking about it. I try a lot in light. I don't think about it but then there are non stop thoughts. It is very overthinking and I have to do compulsions to get relief from the stress. I think my anxiety should reduce but then it does not reduce.

@Anonymous You can't get rid of OCD. It can sometimes go into remission, through some combination of therapy, medication, and luck, but it can always come back. The ultimate thing to understand is that you don't need to do compulsions to handle the stress. OCD is telling you to do those compulsions to handle the stress, when they aren't actually necessary. The understanding that the anxiety will not destroy you is important. Try delaying your compulsions for a few minutes. You will observe that nothing bad actually happens, aside from you feeling anxious. The more consistently you can delay your compulsions, the less the stress will get to you, as the brain will start to realize the compulsions aren't necessary. This is what ERP seeks to establish. Eventually, the hope is that the brain will have less assocation between the anxiety/fear/guilt and the compulsions. Eventually, some people reach a point where the anxiety is so far removed from any compulsion that eventually the brain thinks about the anxiety-inducing thing less and less, as without any response from your part, the thought is considered to be less important, and so your brain switches to other thoughts instead.

@Kevin V I had also thought i married to man intrusive thoughts about marriage but in real when i thought about past i not remember anything i feel more complexion in mind and due to overthinking i feel headache . When i study at my uni i talk to all that boys due to my work same thought come to my mind to all those when i remenber when which date , day time i not remember i never date anyone as i go local from uni home so my father , sometime by auto i go home i feel these thoughts real i see in my mind that i go with that boy and married and these thoughts hurt me i feel fear anxiety because at the end of month march i am getting married and these thougghts come daily at my mind and disturb my mental health does it is real or false ocd

@Anonymous Well, it certainly sounds like False Memory OCD to me. You need to let these thoughts flow through your mind, and let the anxiety just be there, in your mind. It's uncomfortable, maybe even agonizing. But as you do it, your mind will begin to understand that the danger is not real, and that moving on is reasonable. It takes time, but it can be done. You just need to start taking those steps forward.

@Kevin V It may be real ocd how you said certain it would be false ocd

@Anonymous Again, in my opinion, it does sound like 'False Memory' OCD, a subtype of OCD a person has doubts about the past, like if they maybe did something wrong, or if they did something they didn't like. To be clear, 'False Memory' OCD is a real type of OCD, it's not fake.

@Kevin V How i overcome this type because my mind needs certainty or to overcome anxiety i perform compulsion such as mental ruminations , reasurance , google searching , seeing images so that i remember these thoughts feel so real i doubt to myself

@Anonymous That's the thing, the desire for certainty is the problem. If you cannot accept the uncertainty of it, you will struggle. There are things you cannot control, even though you want to. You need to make peace with that. Remember to have compassion for yourself. And remember, the anxiety isn't a problem, it's just a symptom of you wanting certainty. So let the anxiety rest within you. It's ok for it to be there. Don't try to solve it or force it away. Over time, your brain will find it less and less distressing, and thus the intrusive thoughts will become less frequent.

@Kevin V I feel very distress and unwanted thoughts come daily all day my mind and i think i wrong do in past so i want checking see my albums my past memories and my mind thought it is real i feel that some restriction may happen at my wedding day i fear

@Anonymous Yes, maybe you did do something wrong in the past. And that's ok. I've done bad things in my past. You have to be able to make peace with yourself and not seek certainty. Don't try to be 100% certain about the past. It's good to want to be a better person. But that requires you to look forward and make steps towards being a better person. Let the distress exist within you. Don't try to check the past to ease your anxiety.

@Kevin V How could i do wrong in past how you say with certain

@Anonymous That's the thing: It isn't certain. I am NOT saying it with certainty. Do not become obsessed with certainty on this, because it will make the OCD worse.

@Kevin V How i control my negative thoughts i am tired i dont wanna think but my panic attacks make so worse they compel me to think should i done in past ? I wanna to be happy and to enjoy my wedding day and life after marriage what i do