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- 5y ago
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Well I had ocd when I was younger and it got pretty bad towards the end of high-school. Somthing that I used to do. Was have a code word for my trusted friends or family to let them know I'm having trouble. Not saying it's the same as me but things that tend to hit me is things I watch. When I get scared or underpressure. It can be overwhelming. I used to freak out over imagining the joker walking towards me when I was younger. That was because of me watching batman and the thought was overwhelming so I would cry and yell. hope some of this helped. Good luck
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Thanks for you comment. Yes, we are working with an ERP therapist. We don‘t fight all her compulsion at once. We talk to her therapist how we can phase out family accomandation. Somedays it works great , but on other days she will totally loose control: beating her little brother, screaming and biting. Because of her behaviour she doesn‘t have any friends - so unless she is at school-we are spending the whole day and the weekends with her. We actually take turns spending time with her so eyeryone can relax for once...
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You are so so so strong. She is so lucky to have you.
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Thank you for your comment. The problem is she is involving us in her compulsions. When we don‘t support her compulsions, she gets anger attacks. But supporting her compulsions will make the ocd worse.
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Do you know what type of ocd she has. Like what she mainly does or thinks or reacts to
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She is mostly afraid of germs and bacteria. For example she will ask us to wash our socks before entering her room or her jacket cannot touch another jacket. If we don’t follow her „rules“ she will freak out. But it is hard to guess of she is ready to cope with the anxiety. In the morning she will say it is ok and in the evening she suddently cannot handle it....
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Wow. How old is she?
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8 years old ?
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No need for a sad face... I'm no expert but the violence as you put it will probably go on for a while as she grows used to the feeling she gets when the jackets touch or the socks aren't washed. It's a process and it can be overwhelming but with the guidance of a therapist she can get started at a younger age and hopefully be able to control and keep calm as she gets older. Tough process but there is stuff out there for her to get any help she needs. Even for parents it's stressful but her knowing your by her side through all of it will help tremendously. It seems like you really want to figure out and plan out how you can take this down together taking her to therapy, trying to find out more about it, and your doing a great job because of that. I'll pray for her God bless. Head up. You guys got this
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Thanks for your support. We will keep fighting the ocd....
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- 5y ago
OCD is harder to manage when you are tired, so it might be harder for her to tolerate things in the evening. Are you working with an ERP therapist? They usually have you develop a “hierarchy” by ranking things in order of how much anxiety they give you. Then you start with tackling the easier things first. If you’re trying to fight all of her “rules” all at once it might be too much and might be counterproductive. Start with the small stuff first. It will still be very very hard, but that’s normal. Learning to tolerate the anxiety and not engage in compulsions to relieve it is part of recovery. If you aren’t currently working with an ERP therapist I would highly suggest it if you are at all able. I would also recommend the book “Freedom from OCD” by Dr. Grayson. It’s a good way to plan steps for recovery. You are so so so strong for trying to help her through this. I know it must hurt to see her upset. None of this is your fault. It’s a long process so be patient and remember to show yourself some compassion and take care of yourself too ❣️
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❤️ We try our best
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- 20w ago
Every day my ocd makes sure there’s a new reason for me to stay trapped in my mind rather than being the mom I want to be that my kids need. Instead i’m stuck in my head depressed and pushing them away. The other day I was braiding my daughter’s hair like I always do and her hair is really long so when I get to the end of the braid I can see her butt in my peripheral vision and I looked down and I immediately got upset asking myself why did I look down?(the ocd has made me question everything I do now). I know it’s just because I was at the end of the braid and I just looked because I was already looking in that direction. A normal person wouldn’t even think twice about it. There was no inappropriate reason behind it at all but of course my ocd latched onto the situation and said I looked down because I wanted to look at her butt. I was so upset and said to myself “I don’t understand how the ocd started an intrusive thought because she was wearing baggy pants. I could understand if she had on tight pants and her butt was more noticeable” and the only reason I said that is because usually the only time my ocd starts intrusive thoughts telling me i’m looking at my daughter in a wrong way is when she has on leggings or a crop top or bathing suit ect. Now my ocd twisted what I said to mean that I like looking at her in tight pants. Nooo! That’s not what I meant but now the ocd won’t stop trying to make me believe that. I don’t ever look at my children in any inappropriate way. I hate this. I hate ocd and I can’t live like this anymore.
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- 20w ago
This might be asking for reassurance but I’m at a point I’m not sure if this is ocd and who better to ask than you guys. Also want to mention I have been to a psychologist who diagnosed me with ocd and I’ve tried to seek therapy through NOCD but had a bad experience so I’m just looking for an opinion I’ll take with a grain of salt. I’ve been through bouts of pocd that I got through but now it’s morphed into something that feels so different. It’s like harm ocd and pocd together and it revolves around my daughter. Before this happened I was a loving mother who valued my kid more than anything. Now this is happening and it feels so sinister. I’m getting urges to do something bad and I get these feelings like I want to do that and it’s like my brain gets foggy and my values slip away and I feel like I could do it. But then I get a moment of clarity and I’m like wait a minute I’ve never hurt anyone in my life nor have I ever thought about it and this is my child what is happening. But then I get that foggy brain again and it’s like I can’t see her as my child. I try to sit with it and it’s like I get this adrenaline rush and feel like I have to do it. But I know I don’t want to do that, but then it’s like trying to make me want to want to. I’m not sure if I’m just lacking insight and clarity because I’m overwhelmed with the groinals, urges, thoughts and feelings but I just keep obsessing over the fact that death is my only way out. I don’t understand what happened to me. It feels like this demonic oppression and I don’t know how to get through this one or if this is still something I can get through because it might not be ocd. I try to go with the thoughts and feelings and say yeah maybe, maybe not, or yeah I’m going to do that but it seems to fuel the feelings. I feel like I’m teetering between the person I was and this evil awful person who has no regard for others. I don’t want to be around my daughter and I’m just angry all the time. The fear and anxiety used to be something I relied on and I feel none of that now. I used to be able to say “well no matter what I feel or think I can control my actions” and now it feels like I cannot control my actions but I’ve never hurt anyone before. Someone please give it to me straight and tell me if you think this might not be ocd.
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- 12w ago
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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