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I’m scared (I’m sorry if this is long)
I am completely exhausted and terrified. My mind feels like it is trapped in a 24/7 courtroom where I am constantly being forced to defend who I am.Random images and thoughts of being with a girl keep popping into my head out of nowhere. The second they appear, they trigger an instantaneous physical sensation in my body that feels so terrifyingly real for a split second that I instantly panic. It scares me so deeply because it feels like it was really me for that one millisecond. I feel this overwhelming urgency to figure it out right now. I get trapped in these intense mental tests. I force myself to ask, 'Do you like girls? Do you like girls?' and I try as hard as I can to imagine it. When I can't imagine it, I try again and again. Sometimes when I'm thinking of my boyfriend, his image suddenly flips and turns into a girl in my head. As soon as that replay happens, I hit pure panic, and I feel forced to replay the thought over and over to try and fix it or make it look right.During these spikes, I start mentally 'holding onto' the terrifying feelings. I dissect, replay, and analyze them to test my exact reaction, over and over, until my brain goes completely numb and the thoughts feel fake. My head gets so exhausted that it feels like an 'airhead'—like I've run a marathon and physically can't overthink anymore. But then the adrenaline floods back, the empty head fills up with random, weird 'movies,' and my body starts reacting negatively all over again. I am constantly triggered by things I see or read online. I read a story about someone else's sexuality changing, or someone leaves a comment telling me that they used to be confused just like me, and my heart instantly starts racing. My OCD takes their stories and tells me it's my destiny. I find myself digging into my own past memories—like the time I looked at a girl's boobs just to compare them to mine—and I desperately analyze it, wondering, 'What if that was a sign? What if I secretly don't love my boyfriend? What if I'm secretly gay without knowing it?'The truth is, I don't want to date a girl. I am terrified of that happening. I love my boyfriend, but I am so scared that people change over time, or that he will leave me in seven years, or that my whole identity will switch when I go to college. I am so desperately searching for a 100% guarantee that everything will be okay, but the harder I look for it, the more confused I get