Being told that you are not emoting "correctly"

When having an OCD episode or being triggered, have you ever been told that what you feel isn't "correct"? I've been told that many times especially by my family. That fact making those words far harsher. As someone who sometimes struggles with understanding emotions, is it wrong to feel offended by this? Personally, I found such talks to be quite offensive as if I'm being denied my right to feel a certain way to certain stimuli. That I'm being talked down to by people I know for sure would be upset and even nastier when something similar happens to them? I gotta ask you this: have this ever happened to you? How have you felt? What did you do? I just wanted to know that I'm not alone here as I've been told before.

rhic

Date posted: 3d

this has happened to me heaps of times. I think with OCD it’s very difficult for others to understand because situations that most neurotypical people would find harmless and easy to get over, we tend to take it to the extremes and feel a lot more hurt about them because it’s just how our OCD processes things and tries to make our bodies react. Whenever i speak to my friends about minor things that they do that can make me feel really hurt and play into my moral OCD, get called ‘high maintenance’ and get told that i’m always too dramatic and it’s too frustrating for them. It’s such a difficult situation because deep down i know i shouldn’t be so hurt by such little things but just seeing the way that people overlook how we respond and feel hurts just as much.

Edwin Langit

Date posted: 2d

While I'm not sure if this really applies to you but what makes this worse is that once this has happened, they NEVER let that particular image of you go away. What I mean is that before therapy, my OCD was less manageable and often came out as bursts of anxiety and fear once certain conditions are met. I've since improved enough for that not to happen as much but to them I haven't. I'd either have completely "stopped" having OCD or just would do the exact same thing if triggered. I just hate that as it just dismisses all of the progress that I have done and reduces me to just being a burden that they "validate" as to avoid my wrath.

rhic

Date posted: Yesterday

yeah this has happened to me in my relationship. i became detached because of my OCD and we were really distant and the relationship was slowly falling apart because my mental was too bad. since i started working on myself i’ve found that i’ve been putting in a lot of effort to show back up and be my normal self again however a tiny slip up turns into a big thing and he links it back to saying that i don’t care and that our relationship is still falling apart whilst completely overlooking the weeks of effort i’ve been trying to make with the best of the energy that i have. i really feel you with being subjected to that one bad perception of yourself, when the time are really bad people tend to only focus on those times since they were the most impactful, whereas when we start to get better, these steps look minor for others because of how bad we were to begin with whereas to us these improvements mean everything

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