dealing with ocd

does anyone else have to deal with people being annoyed by you when dealing with ocd? i was decently diagnosed with ocd but have obviously had it much longer. now that i have the diagnosis i know why i do what i do and why i am the way that i am but everyone seems so annoyed with me and have openly admitted being annoyed several times. contamination ocd is something i deal with and when i was a kid people thought i was greedy whenever they reached for a chip in my bowl and i wouldn't let them or disruptive when i'd tap on things in a quiet room or even in recent years before i was diagnosed when i'd ask my now ex-boyfriend for reassurance and he'd yell at me which caused arguments but now my ocd causes me immense exhaustion because my stupid brain doesn't ever shut up. they think i'm lazy but i'm really not, i just have no energy. people like my parents and friends seem to get annoyed so quickly with me and i'm just like, how do you think i feel? i love them all and they do try most of the time which i am so grateful for but i'm so tired of people getting annoyed at me for something i try so hard to control but can't.

anon7336474864

Date posted: 11h

i’ve had my brother be annoyed at me when i talked about my spirals or when i told him i stopped interacting with a million things because they’re problematic and it’s the “safest option.” but for me, it’s just my brother and my parents have more patience. it seems like so many people in your life get mad at you and it’s not the way to treat someone who’s hurting! from what you said about your boyfriend, i’m also concerned… he should absolutely not yell at you. maybe i’m biased but i think everyone you mentioned needs to be a little more patient with you, you’re trying your best. if you’re not in treatment i recommend it. i will say another thing about your boyfriend, though. when someone gets annoyed with you about your ocd, i think you have to reevaluate why you’re telling them. obviously it’s reassurance seeking, but can that person tell you that would change your life? if it’s rocd here’s an example:say that you’re reassurance seeking because you’re afraid that you offended your boyfriend and you keep asking if you both are okay with each other. if he really was upset or offended with you it’s *his job to tell you and communicate, relationships are not one sided. you might want to have a conversation with him about being honest with each other and about him not yelling when he’s upset. hope this makes sense

ilovecats :)

Date posted: 11h

@anon7336474864 Don't worry he and I broke up earlier this year. I was most definitely experiencing some ROCD but didn't realize it at the time. Now that I have a better understanding I'll know how to navigate relationships in the future but I'm almost grateful he and I didn't work out because he was the type of person that wouldn't have understood even if I did explain. but yes, i am seeing an erp therapist on here actually and it's been going pretty well but i'm still struggling of course. I'm also sorry to hear about your brother though, I can understand how tough it can be for someone to get annoyed with something you can't control, it really sucks.

anon7336474864

Date posted: 11h

@ilovecats :) - it’s good that you separated and that you’re in therapy! i’m in therapy too and i’m working on reassurance seeking too. my brother isn’t exactly a bad guy, he had ocd too, but i think it’s just his apathy and anger issues getting the better of him. he’s working on being more patient with me! ocd themes can be so different from each other, so he just doesn’t understand my stress very well. i really wish you luck on your family, though!

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