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Completely relate. I analyse things before I speak to guys in my head like does that sound flirty and reword things?
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Yes, I feel like my mind will purposely make me regret something that I did not want to even think. Or it tries convincing me that I did things on purpose to be shady to my partner. For me, it's very difficult to distinguish if it's part of o.c.d. or if I'm choosing. I get very confused.
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And sometimes have to shake my head into reality and think, if this is not coming from me. Then maybe it's not me ?
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I go over a situation in my head and try to solve it so I can relax but it only happens again
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Same
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I know the way I am I will never want to betray my b.f. but I get almost lole hypnotized with my thoughts.
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Yes this is me! I dunno if it’s just me but I think why if I physically cheat on my boyfriend and then I’ll like analyse my body too? Also I worse urges if a guy is attractive too, my brain is like convincing me to do it because I’m not happy in my relationship or it tells me that I won’t be with him forever so I may as well do something and I might actually fantasise about it but a part of me is like no I don’t want to do that because it would make me feel guilty and ashamed of myself!!?! I will try to get rid of the thoughts and impulses but sometimes I’ll actually give in, not actually cheat but like move my head in a certain direction in this idea that ‘someone may lunge at me’ ? i then have to confess to my boyfriend
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What you are saying is you are not happy in your relationship, or that your o.c.d. thoughts tell you that ?
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@isssss93 That’s the thing I don’t know ?
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@Melkate For me. I know I love my boyfriend but I still have thoughts similar to yours.
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@isssss93 I guess relationship ocd makes you doubt your love for your partner so I am a little confused.
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@Melkate In my opinion if your worried about it. It's usually ocd thoughts. We know o.c.d. targets what you care about most. I have experienced that pretty much my entire life. It's like a cycle of being anxious and afraid for things you don't want to happen and your mind making you feel like they will, or make you have a thought about it. If you don't want it like the thought, it's not you. It's ocd.
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But I get the thought like oh you just got away Scott free because someone wasn’t there and if they were you would have done something etc etc
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I have this deep fear I’ll accidentally cheat on my long term partner. This fear was initially triggered a couple years ago after being at a bar with my friends where I enjoyed the attention of being flirted with by a stranger. Because of my enjoyment of receiving verbal attention, I began spiraling about what if I accidentally cheat. Since then I have made multiple confessions to my partner to seek reassurance, replayed events over and over in my head, spent hours googling/looking at reddit threads, and now I dread “bar like” situations where I know my partner won’t be around. Today I was triggered and have wasted about 4-5 hours of my day ruminating. Does anyone else with relationship ocd struggle with this fear and have any tips?
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Despite the fact that I have never once acted flirtatiously with someone else over the course of my 3-year relationship, never talked to anyone inappropriately, never touched or interacted with anyone inappropriately, I have been battling constant ROCD obsessions centered around cheating ever since my partner and I got together. I am constantly worried about whether certain things are cheating: daydreaming about another person (already told my partner about this and he said it was okay and that he does it too), talking in a group chat with someone, sitting next to someone, speaking to them in person. I question my intentions. I worry that I cheated by wearing my hair a certain way in an attempt to look more attractive or by jokingly poking someone with a fake sword (despite doing it to other people too), looking through someone’s social media, etc. I have confessed so many ridiculous things to my partner and he’s always told me that none of them are cheating. I feel so guilty for being attracted to someone else, despite the fact that my partner said it was fine and normal. I have made a very very conscious effort to limit my interactions with this person. I never ever ever ever message them privately, I make an obsessive effort to NOT reply to their messages in a group server (constantly keeping track of the ratio of my replies to their messages compared to other people’s), to ignore them when I see them in person and hardly ever speak to them or initiate conversation with them. Yet I still feel like a disgusting dirty cheater who is hiding a big secret.
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I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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