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Hang in there love
hey! loved ones hold an incredibly close place in our hearts. when we imagine the inevitable, it can often be a mixture of deep sadness or some form of anxiety. perhaps even guilt, if you feel you are responsible in some way. as difficult as it sounds, acceptance is an important part of recovery. try to find and break down any irrational beliefs that may be fueling this cycle, and replace them with rational ones. that may help. also, maybe trying to approach it with a fresh perspective. that although the ones around us may pass one day, we would have lived such fulfilling lives together. that’s kind of what makes life so special. and, to reference a scene from The Amazing Spider-man 2, to take a part of them with you. they’re not gone as long as you take them with you, in a healthy way. best of luck.
I’ve dealt with that, fearing of losing my family. It did eventually become another topic but at the time it was very distressing. Stay strong you got this ?
Yeah it definitely comes and goes throughout the years and something I read or saw on the news usually triggers it. But it goes back to even my childhood. I was always convinced my mom was in a car accident if she was only 5 minutes late from picking me up from school. But all I can do is live and cherish each day. Thank you everyone ❤️❤️
Ugh same. I’m afraid of my mom or dad getting hurt and it really messes up up to the point where I’m basically safety proofing the entire house.
I know somebody with this and it sounds just awful to go through. Especially as death is a fact of life and no amount of lifestyle changes, contingency planning or avoidance of risk is going to solve it. I should be glad that my own OCD fears aren’t inevitable ones even if they sometimes feel that way. I’m about to start a book called ‘freedom from ocd’ ‘living with uncertainty’. I wonder if it could help you too. The serenity prayer often helps me when things are bad. It takes a lot of courage to accept the things you can’t change ❤️
TW for mental health issues, death, ptsd, ED i guess ill just start off by saying that i have struggled since i was young with severe anxiety and panic attacks since i was about five but an onslaught of CPTSD worsened a lot of things for me. i developed an eating disorder in my teens and was hospitalized for it. i’ve been in and out of therapy since i was ten and while i do my best without medication to live my life to the fullest, i often feel like i don’t deserve the successes and support i’ve received in the last few years b/c i feel like i don’t deserve to be happy at all. i saw a video recently of a girl talking about her obsessive hypochondriac thoughts that i resonated with and when i read the comments, a lot of people pointed out that it might be ocd. it hasn’t ever been a thought that crossed my mind and now im wondering if im twisting that video into some sort of self diagnosis for myself. im wondering if it’s just my high anxiety that’s causing these severely intrusive thoughts. for example, i have had a really hard time sleeping recently because the thought that i or my partner might die in my sleep keeps me up. if i have an aneurysm or a heart attack in the middle of the night and die, or worse, if my partner has an aneurysm or heart attack, is it because i don’t deserve to be happy with him? i don’t deserve a wonderful relationship? another thought i have is when i drive with us both in the car, im going to crash and severely injure both of us or kill us both. i have never once crashed my car or gotten into an accident btw, but for some reason i just get this extremely morbid thought that im going to crash and it’ll be the end. i had a weirdly spiritual experience/revelation in 2020/21 about the multiverse and i keep thinking that every night i actually die or that i get into accidents or something morbid happens and im somehow timeline jumping and going to a different multiverse and that’s been my odd way of coping with these thoughts. i guess im just trying to figure out if this is even remotely similar to OCD or if im just over analyzing it bc of my anxiety/hypochondria i guess?? i dont know i just want help. if this isn’t OCD, please tell me and i will delete this post and app and ill sincerely apologize to everyone who actually suffers. 🙏
I think this is magical thinking but I’m not 100% sure. I get really scared and think all of my loved ones will die in a car accident. Especially if they’re running an errand for me or coming to visit me then it’s like 100% more likely for them to get in a car wreck because it was FOR ME. Or if I’m with my family members and one wants to drive to get food, etc I feel like I HAVE to go WITH them in order to prevent a car crash from happening and them dying. Like if I stay home then I’m ensuring their death? Does this make sense? Anyone else relate? What on earth is it?! It’s constant and automatic and everyday.
My theme has shifted drastically in the past year. I haven’t used NOCD in a while since i’ve been doing a lot better and thought i’d just check and see how the community is doing. Hope you’re all doing okay 👌🏼. I suffered with SO-OCD for over a year. Thankfully, i’ve somewhat overcome this and it’s nothing but a passing thought in my head After a period of peace I began having obsessions and fears about the end of the world. Specifically asteroid/comets. The sound of a plane, a low rumble, or a loud bang is enough to send me spiralling. I’d jump for my phone to see what the news was saying and even downloaded a flight radar app to check if what i was hearing was a plane or not. Last night i noticed a bright star start flickering and i was convinced i was gonna die. The dreams are relentless. Every night I have nightmares about the same thing and every night I feel absolute horror, coming to terms with death before waking up in a cold sweat. Let me know your thoughts or if anyone else is going through similar things.
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