Where my ROCD people at? Anyone else constantly struggling to deal with thoughts that you’ve been unfaithful? Simply by checking someone out, staring, having thoughts, or even just straight up thinking about someone a lot (in an ocd way)? It makes it so difficult to be around people in the workplace and elsewhere. Would love to hear some people’s examples if you feel comfortable sharing.

I am obsessed with a friend who would be literally the worst person I could become involved with. I'm not even sure if this is the obsession or the compulsion. Sometimes I worry about my husband cheating or even dying, and I neutralize the fear by imagining that this other person would step in if I needed him. I know this friend is attracted to me, and worry that he also has OCD. He has confessed to my husband, and he also flirts and makes inappropriate jokes around me, but always in a group setting. He doesn't talk to me like that when we're alone-he just seems uncomfortable. I think it could be OCD because the timing of his comments is so odd...it always seems like he blurts things out and then feels ashamed. I have trouble reading people, but I just think that if he were serious about cheating, he would be a lot more discreet... He is married-I used to be close with his wife, but we have had issues related to how she treats my other female friends. Now we mostly get along, but with strong boundaries. Honestly I prefer his company to hers these days. I often wonder if our issues are related to how he treats me. The cherry on top of this obsession is that I once turned down a blind date with him in high school. He got a little upset about it a couple years ago when my husband told him about it. I have definitely ruminated on "what could have been." Those fantasies get worse when I face professional rejection, because back in high school I sacrificed a lot of my social life to prepare for my career. This obsession has been going on for almost a year. It comes and goes but the last few months have been brutal. I ruminate and sometimes fantasize about him at work, and then I go home and want to vomit. I still love and want to be with my husband, I'm just not obsessed with him, which I think is a good thing. I am used to getting inappropriate men stuck in my brain, I just never thought it would happen with HIM. Despite everything, this is the happiest I have ever been. I just keep reminding myself that my brain is only attacking itself because I have no clue how to be happy.

Oh absolutely! You can’t help if you find someone attractive, naturally you will be - not something that can be controlled. I find so many people attractive, have crushes on coworkers and have just learned to accept it. Maybe or maybe not to anything you know)

I am gonna be straight honest and say I cheated once and since then my ocd tells me if I look or talk to other people I am cheating so technically I am in this predicament but I put myself here because of my terrible choices.

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