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- Vidhyut
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I relate a lot to what you’re feeling. I’ve had fights with my parents over OCD every night for about a week now, and I can feel it affecting my relationship with everyone around me. My grades are tanking as well. These are all struggles that OCD brings on, but just know that there are ways to fix it and reduce the effects of it. There is a way to get your life back. If your therapist isn’t helpful, would it be that bad if you tried another one?
Whenever I bring up this topic, my parents just deny it and say I'm arrogant and I refuse to listen to my therapist, even when I know he isn't helping much. So since this year I've tried to cure this on my own. But it's really hard without any guidance. I don't have anyone to talk to, no one will understand me, and my family members think that I'm a freak. Ocd is hard but it's even harder when you're alone..
As someone who kept my OCD to myself for 4 years, I can tell you that you CANNOT beat it on your own. There’s just no way. It’s a disorder, and you need someone who doesn’t have a disorder to help you get through it. That doesn’t mean you should give up, but it means that you’ll have a lot more success in managing it if you find someone you trust to help you get through it. Are you sure your parents won’t help you?
My parents do try to help, but even they get fed up and tired of me, I know they are looking out for me but they aren't being very helpful tbh. I don't know what to do
My siblings don’t even believe me when I say I have these problems. They think I’m being extra and overreacting. So I learned to not give a shit about what they think, all that matters is my mental health. If they choose to believe me,great, if not we’ll shit. Nothing I can do about that. Wish you the best of luck!
Exactly! Everyone thinks I'm being extra and overreacting! No one takes me seriously and just label me as a freak. Ocd itself is hard and I have to deal with this crap too lol
@Vidhyut That’s why I learned not to care anymore. If they’re going to make fun of it and not even try to understand, what’s the point of explaining. Save your breathe
@sillybilly Exactly! thanks for listening and hope you beat ocd soon
it’s tough. people always talk about the social stigma around mental health, but I didn’t know how serious it was until I asked for help and people started looking at me different
I feel you. Only someone who has been on the same path can understand. Wish you all the best and thanks for listening
I can relate as well back before I actually found out I had OCD my mom used to say the same things why don't you just snap out of it...the only problem was I couldn't and the doctor put me on meds and always do whenever I try to go and get help to better manage my OCD but I have always been reluctant to go on meds for it.So I have now decided to try to learn to manage it on my own.
Even i was hesitant to go on meds.. They have side effects. So I'm trying to manage ocd by myself and it's tough
EXACTLY...and the side effects is what I was worried about when it comes to meds.
I can relate a lot to what you’re going through. My OCD has morphed into just about every aspect of my life. I have been told these things too and I find myself feeling & thinking like “why can’t I just calm down and why can’t I just be like eve else?” I have a very hard time accepting my disorder but I know I have to if I ever want to get better. It may feel like it, but I promise u ur not alone. My anxiety has been EXTREMELY high lately. I’m honestly not sure why, but I constantly feel like I need to find out why and make myself “normal” again or “how I should be” I’m trying so hard to not react to my anxiety but it feels like I’m going to die from something if I don’t. I just want to be ok, but I know that I may never be ok again, and that makes me so sad. I miss who and how I was before OCD and anxiety took control of my life. Also everyone else probably isn’t having a happy life even though u may think they are. Everyone has anxiety about something it’s just that ours is a bit different and more persistent than others.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with them. That’s really disheartening and I’m sure it hurts your feelings. Your OCD is real and you’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got. Have you looked into group therapy? Many areas have local support groups for people with OCD. And some are even for both OCD sufferers and their families. If your therapist isn’t being helpful, a group might at least help you feel less alone. And if your family can join, hopefully they can see other families being more supportive and learn to stop being such assholes to their kid who’s clearly suffering and needs support.
Can anyone help me. I am having trouble with my parents understanding how my OCD and other mental health issues effect my school life. They don't understand how harmful my OCD is for me. I feel like I have no one. I am so sad and exhausted. I feel like I can't live this aspect of my life anymore. It is killing me.
Sometimes my OCD makes my parents very angry. It bothers me so much. Cause i dont want to have this thoughts. I dont want to be this way. I used to hate the way my father looked at me when i did my ocd rituals. I thought i see shame in his eyes. When i was in school. Every time i did my rituals I felt ashamed of what i was doing infront of others. It hurted so much. I so wanted to stop this. I just hated the way i looked. It just feel bad when my mother says "your driving me crazy" or " what have i done that you became like this" or "i wish god kill me" when she is bothered by my ocd. Or when they shout at me. I feel so bad. Cause i dont want to be this way more than anybody else. Im trying and i have improved so much. Im still trying. But my mother constantly put me under preassure for going to my therapist. I think she dont like her because she expect therapy to work fast.
Feeling a little despondent because I had been doing better for a few weeks, making some progress and experiencing less anxiety, but I had a bad flare this past weekend after a stressful week and now I feel like I'm back where I was a month ago and that I'll never get any better than this. I think the worst part is that it feels so isolating. I can't really talk to my friends about it because they don't have OCD and don't understand, and I feel like I'm just burdening them with crazy nonsense and alienating them because they can't relate to anything I talk about anymore. I can't talk to my family because they're tired of having to live with me and fed up with me not making any substantial progress, and me talking about my OCD just makes them angry because it means I haven't been working hard enough to get better and I should be over it by now. It's worse now that I gave them the false hope that I was doing better, but every time I relapse I let them down and they're running out of patience to deal with me. I am an emotional and financial burden to my family and I contribute nothing in return. I can barely leave the house, I'm almost 38 years old and I've never had a real job or any interests outside of my obsessions. My family is pretty much the only thing I have going for me and if I don't get better NOW, my behavior will push them away too. I see people younger than me getting help for OCD and I feel like it's just too late, this disorder is all I'll ever be and I'll never be able to recover and have an identity outside of it. I am seeing a therapist but no matter how much they tell me I'm working hard or making progress, I just can't see it and I'm sure they'll give up on me soon.
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