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I personally haven’t experienced the celebrity obsessions but sometimes my OCD will focus on a person I love like my husband, my dad, my nana ect. I’ll get bad thoughts like “what if you don’t really love your husband” and “your nana is so small you could kill her if u wanted to” it’s sad and makes me feel like an awful person. I would never want to hurt anyone I love. I know it’s just OCD but it doesn’t make it any easier. Do u have a close support system that you can tell them about what your experiencing? Or are u in therapy?
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I’m sorry that you’ve experienced that :( I have a good support system but I guess I’m still a little afraid of telling my therapist the full extent of my obsession because I feel so weird for obsessing over her so much?
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i think i get what ur saying. i would be so obsessed with a musician that i was watching videos of them all day and my heart hurt not being able to see them. iv got over this and i think it was just kinda a way of coping but it is a weird feeling for sure
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Totally. During college like 8 years ago I would spend hours and hours watching Katy Perry Videos and reading articles, just torturing myself wishing I was her. My ex back then thought she was super hot (and she is). I loved her before he told me that but like when he told me that I became obsessed with her in a super jealous unhealthy OCD way because I was so distraught that my Ex thought she was hot. Thank goodness my OCD eventually shifted on to something else, as it always does and I got back to a place of just being able to love her! You’re not alone, remember that OCD can take ANY form and if it helps, remember that your OCD very likely won’t be stuck on this forever and if you’re able to do so, try to do some ERP regarding the celebrity to help you move past it! Best wishes! ?
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I have been going through the same thing when people are saying that the celebrity I’m focused on is hot! I feel so jealous and so bad about myself because I just want to be them and be with them so much. It’s comforting to know someone else understands; I’m sorry you had to go through that though.?I just don’t know what type of ERP I could do to help this type of situation. If you have any ideas from your experience or whatever I would love to hear more about them. Thanks so much and I wish you all the best too???
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@lifeofm Aww I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I know how all consuming it feels! Thank you so much! I’ve never heard anyone else mention they went through the same thing so i appreciate you sharing your story! Oh I totally get that! ERP can be hard to do on your own when your OCD doesn’t fit perfectly in one of the sub groups talked about in books. I was never able to do ERP on mine back then since I just wasn’t ready for that but now looking back on it I think it would have helped a lot. Perhaps find a blank ERP hierarchy sheet on google and try to fill that out first with things like - a triggering event- such as hearing the celebrity’s name and then labeling how anxious the trigger makes you and then writing down the associated “mental compulsion” that pairs with the triggering event and occurs after the triggering event- so like the need to look up pictures or articles of them or go on their Twitter, etc. Then once your hierarchy is done and includes the things that make you most anxious and only a little anxious, you can try to start on the things that makes you less anxious so perhaps for example with hearing their name- resist the compulsion to search their name online for even only 30 minutes- then you can allow yourself to look them up and then slowly increase the time?! I hope that makes sense and might help a little bit! That’s what I would attempt to do on myself for ERP if I was still having the same thoughts I used to, but it’s easier said than done of course!! I hope I was at least a little bit helpful! I’m sure you will get more of a handle on this OCD theme, you’ve got this! Best wishes! ??
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@April E. You are so sweet!!!! Thank you so much for this!! I feel really lucky to have connected with someone who understands how this feels. If you ever need anything, feel free to reach out. Thank you so much❤️ and I hope that whatever you’re going through too will get better and that you will always be able to find solace and happiness!! ??
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@lifeofm Aw so are you! ? You are SO welcome! Aw same here! I’ve never heard anyone else talk about the same thing I went through! Aw thank you so much, same to you! Aw thank you so much, I appreciate that a lot! You too! ??
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When you're thinking about the person, is it pleasant or unpleasant?
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It’s pleasant, like almost like an addictive thing, but it becomes unpleasant when it takes over my whole life?
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@lifeofm So you need to focus on the big picture to change your actions?
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@NOCD Advocate - Katie I think I do, but I don’t know how to kind of break the “addiction” :(
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@lifeofm One place to start might be increasing engagement in other hobbies and recreation activities, even volunteering or work. OCD often expands to fill gaps in our schedule
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@NOCD Advocate - Katie That’s a good idea! I definitely try and do that, it just unfortunately takes up space in my mind oftentimes regardless of what I’m doing or how busy I am. But you’re right, it definitely gets worse when I’m completely unoccupied.
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Ok, so when I was in high school I became very obsessive with love. I didn’t love myself and I found this boy who I wanted to love me. I had myself convinced we would get married. He didn’t even know who I was and I’ll admit, I completely invaded his privacy. I memorized his schedule, I put myself in places I knew he’d be or if I knew he was somewhere I’d go. I truly never meant harm, I just wanted him to love me and I thought that me stalking his life would get me into it and get him to love me. It got to the point where I even stalked other girls I thought he liked and told them that we were a “thing” so that they would stop talking to him even though we were definitely not a thing. I struggle to release the guilt of that overall because I feel so so so awful about it, but I know I never meant harm. Anyways, now that we are no longer together, I have this fear that if he never would’ve given me the attention I desired that I would’ve kept going. I would’ve started to get harmful and that I would’ve gone as far as harming people around him in order to get myself into his life. It makes me feel so awful but I truly do feel like I would’ve kept going and kept myself in his life even if he would’ve gotten a different girlfriend. Idk, I just really struggle because I don’t feel as though this was ocd and that maybe I truthfully am a horrible person who does need serious help because I stalked him so much and obsessed over him and crossed his privacy boundary. I’m so afraid to the extent that I would’ve gone had it not become us dating.
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Lately, I’ve been kind of confused. I’m in a relationship with a person I’ve known for a long time. I also happen to deeply like two famous people I know. It’s like I’m extremely attached to them. All day I think about them. But it’s kind of weird, because I don’t spend all day thinking about my girlfriend. I love her, but it’s like these other two people are on my head all day. It makes me feel insanely horrible for being in a relationship. I feel so myself with thinking about those two, like I’m free from everything. I feel insanely guilty too. To the point it’s been causing depression, and this obsession of needing to know what’s wrong with me for this. It’s like I try to tell myself nothings wrong, but I feel so guilty. I just think about them all day, and not my girlfriend. It concerns me. I’m 15, I just turned 15 yesterday. And I always try to talk too my mom about this, but she always says the same shit. “I was like that at your age” but I’m not trying to say that. But like seriously I’m so confused about myself at this point I don’t even know what too do
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I just need to get this off my chest but I feel like every time I develop romantic feelings for someone, it’s never genuine, it’s never love, it’s a placement of feelings and what I ideally want out of a romantic relationship onto a single person and it’s just not fair to them. It’s an obsession, obsession with an idea of someone and not for what they truly are. Picking out traits that I like and value in a partner, picking apart a person like they aren’t real. It’s just not healthy. I want to be able to love and be loved. I know that this person will never feel the same and it is not their fault, but I’m still hurt over this idea of them that I’ve built in my head. I’ve constructed a false persona for this person just because they embody something that I am seeking, and to be honest, I can’t tell if that’s a friend or just someone to give me the time of day because I’m so desperate to be heard and seen, I want attention, to be wanted even if it means being used or just given a moment to be in their presence. I don’t think I could ever be in a relationship, I feel like I am clouded by delusion, I feel crazy. Maybe that’s simply because I just am not emotionally stable enough to engage in a meaningful relationship to any degree. There was this person that I took a liking to and saw as a potential someone to become a large part of my life, but they don’t think anything of me, so for the long periods of time that I received nothing but radio silence, I was left with alone with my thoughts and holding onto whatever sliver of hope that they might feel the same. None of it is real. I want to feel normal and not get so emotional over every relationship I ever form, especially those that come with romantic feelings. I don’t know how to overcome this, all I can think about is them. Do I just confess my feelings and get it over with? Face the rejection so I can move on? Or just be left wondering and seeing out how this relationship progresses…even if that risks fading into absolute nothingness and never interacting again? I’m just so caught up in my head over someone who will never ever think twice about me. Sometimes I feel they may hate me even and just be responding with kindness out of courtesy and the fact that they are just a genuinely good person. I have no hard feelings towards them, they’ve done nothing wrong. I just can’t help but be mad at myself for feeling this way, allowing myself to fall into this again. It happens every time I get close. Do you think I’m being crazy or is it normal? I don’t even know what I wanted out of this relationship, maybe relationships aren’t something written for me. Do you think I’ll ever be able to get to a point where I can develop a healthy, non-obsessive, truly meaningful relationship? Any advice??
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