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Mememememe. Literally this. I thought I'd done something I hadn't in a very real situation that happened. I struggled for years to stop going over and over the memories and other stuff like chat logs and constantly reassuring myself that I didn't do this thing, sometimes I believed I did and sometimes it was obvious that I didn't. The guilt was, and still is to a degree, appalling. Even the fact that I could've thought I did this thing seemed like evidence that I did it. So did other mistakes I've made and other stuff I felt guilty about, my brain has used it all against me. Ugh.
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@Bob999 Very, very slowly. ERP, CBT, taking risks bit by bit and working on perfectionistic thinking about myself. If I can accept that even if I made a mistake I wouldn't be the worst person in the world or even a "bad person" as nobody is perfect or all-bad, that makes the OCD thoughts cause less intense feelings. Which makes it easier to do ERP with them. For a long time after I had processed and knew I hadn't done what I thought, I believed that I must've at least done something LIKE it. I still thought that my feelings had to reflect something in reality so I just came up with hyper critical interpretations of the mistakes I DID make and went with them. It was still better than the original OCD, I no longer thought I was a bad person for the mistakes, but it's only in the last year or so that I've realised that it was actually only ever one very minor thing which isn't even rationally an immoral thing, and that guilt about my other mistakes has no bearing on that situation. It's been a long road of headaches. I should've sought therapy a lot sooner.
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totally. I’ll think of something real and not very harmful that happened that i feel only initially slightly guilty about, and then add on false memory details until i feel horrible. Youre not alone!
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@Bob999 Im going through a similar struggle right now. I keep having thoughts that i maybe did something awful and my mind has forced me to forget about it. But we have to remember, we as people with OCD take things very seriously. The likely-hood of forgetting something valuable like that is almost zero. Dont use this as reassurance however, because the only way we can know for sure is to accept all possibilities. If we can do that and be at peace with our thoughts while using logic and common sense (something that ocd hates hehe) i think we can get over this false memory bs! You know deep down inside that trying to figure it out is only causing you more stress, its okay to let negative thoughts go :) you deserve the relief!
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@Bob999 totally. Sadly there never is a bottom when it comes to these thoughts. Theres some things you cant prove and ive learned from experience that even if you can, your ocd will latch on to something else almost immediately. I find learning to just accept whatever ur ocd is fixiated on at the time as what it is (an untrue mess of thoughts), will slow down the process of your ocd latching on to new things and definitely helps in the long run. I know its difficult but you got this!!
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@Bob999 absolutely. Ill hear a story about cheating and immediately think “damn, i must of cheated because im thinking about such an intrusive thought in response to hearing about someone else cheat”. I fully believe if it was a repressed memory you would know in a way that wouldnt have you even question if it was ocd or not
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Both.
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Yes !!! 100%
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