Nica
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- 5y
NicaNica
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- 5y
I’ll definitely have POCD for the rest of my life because it’s from my sexual abuse as a child. So I just need to push through sex no matter what pops up in my head— but then I have to deal with the “what if you’re turned on by what I just showed you?” An endless cycle of stupidity ?
Maria SavioMaria Savio
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- 5y
In my personal opinion, you should go ahead with sex. Avoiding it does nothing to make the images go away. I have personally just powered thru things like this because avoiding will not make it disappear. Totally sucky I know. But your brain will get tired of it and move on.
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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- 5y
I agree. Avoiding something just in case the image pops up gives that image power. It tells your brain that the image is dangerous or wrong. That will make the image become more and more distressing over time
NicaNica
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- 5y
Thank you for the help!
Maria SavioMaria Savio
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- 5y
No problem...I also go thru this and it's the worse type of hell. But you deep down know your core values and this is just something that this disorder fixates on of course until it gets bored and moves onto something else. That's important to keep in mind and not letting it win or have control over you cause if we let it it can. Just carry on with your day as if these thoughts aren't on your head and eventually they will leave. I wish there was some way to not go thru all this but there isnt so we must take charge the best way we can. You will be fine and do not let this crap damage your real life marriage
Maria SavioMaria Savio
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- 5y
Yes it will not be easy...with time you will recognize these thoughts as OCD messing with you and won't assign meaning to them...cause they mean nothing. And with our disorder we do think they define us. But it doesnt. I wish our own brains wouldn't work against us. However hard this may be, we can get better
NicaNica
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- 5y
I’ve definitely gotten better at recognizing what is and isn’t OCD thoughts and most of them don’t bother me, but there’s just certain thoughts and images that I know still get to me and I know I have to get over it, but arggghhh! It’s hard lol
Maria SavioMaria Savio
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- 5y
Absolutely. It sucks but we will be okay
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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- 5y
Do the flashes of his face bother you at other times of the day, or you are fine usually but predicting they will bother you during sex?
NicaNica
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- 5y
They don’t usually bother me but I know that if I start worrying over them during the day, they definitely could.
NicaNica
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- 5y
I know what my brain is doing, so that’s why I’m aware of what’s going on. I still am often hesitant to have sex though, which I know isn’t a good thing. I do eventually have sex, just not when I want to, kinda thing.
Maria SavioMaria Savio
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- 5y
As uncomfortable as it is, do it anyway. Yes it will give u anxiety and yes u still may have intrusive thoughts but you must show your OCD that YOU are boss. I know its it's easier said than done but your marriage will suffer because of this made up crap that doesnt exist...cause that what the thoughts OCD gives us are. Made up crap that distress us. Start thinking of it that way and it can and will get better
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Anonymous
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- 23w
Posting again cause still feeling awful
I have a fear that i intentionally put a thought of my baby girl in my head during sex.. i dont know what happened anymore, was that intrusive, what happened at all, i just cant remember, everything is fuzzy... Only thing i know for sure is that i dont feel anything sexual towards my daughter and that is the only thing im certain of... Anyone had similiar experience and what has helped you move on? Im stuck with this terrible feelings for 5 days now..
Anonimus ME 🦋
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- 23w
Professional advice or experience? Tnx ❤️
How long should I do ERP, so that my brain gets used to it, not to say tired?! I've been working for about three months, but everything still seems vivid in my head, there are even vulgar words in detail... since the sexual topic is both a groinal and a feeling that I want to touch myself. It's mostly related to faces and genitals, so how exactly can that go, if it's emphasized that sex pictures in themselves give that feeling, whoever is in them?
Anonymousssssss
- Date posted
- 21w
Can someone please offer words of advice :(
Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
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