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I’ll definitely have POCD for the rest of my life because it’s from my sexual abuse as a child. So I just need to push through sex no matter what pops up in my head— but then I have to deal with the “what if you’re turned on by what I just showed you?” An endless cycle of stupidity ?
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In my personal opinion, you should go ahead with sex. Avoiding it does nothing to make the images go away. I have personally just powered thru things like this because avoiding will not make it disappear. Totally sucky I know. But your brain will get tired of it and move on.
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I agree. Avoiding something just in case the image pops up gives that image power. It tells your brain that the image is dangerous or wrong. That will make the image become more and more distressing over time
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Thank you for the help!
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No problem...I also go thru this and it's the worse type of hell. But you deep down know your core values and this is just something that this disorder fixates on of course until it gets bored and moves onto something else. That's important to keep in mind and not letting it win or have control over you cause if we let it it can. Just carry on with your day as if these thoughts aren't on your head and eventually they will leave. I wish there was some way to not go thru all this but there isnt so we must take charge the best way we can. You will be fine and do not let this crap damage your real life marriage
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Yes it will not be easy...with time you will recognize these thoughts as OCD messing with you and won't assign meaning to them...cause they mean nothing. And with our disorder we do think they define us. But it doesnt. I wish our own brains wouldn't work against us. However hard this may be, we can get better
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I’ve definitely gotten better at recognizing what is and isn’t OCD thoughts and most of them don’t bother me, but there’s just certain thoughts and images that I know still get to me and I know I have to get over it, but arggghhh! It’s hard lol
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Absolutely. It sucks but we will be okay
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Do the flashes of his face bother you at other times of the day, or you are fine usually but predicting they will bother you during sex?
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They don’t usually bother me but I know that if I start worrying over them during the day, they definitely could.
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I know what my brain is doing, so that’s why I’m aware of what’s going on. I still am often hesitant to have sex though, which I know isn’t a good thing. I do eventually have sex, just not when I want to, kinda thing.
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As uncomfortable as it is, do it anyway. Yes it will give u anxiety and yes u still may have intrusive thoughts but you must show your OCD that YOU are boss. I know its it's easier said than done but your marriage will suffer because of this made up crap that doesnt exist...cause that what the thoughts OCD gives us are. Made up crap that distress us. Start thinking of it that way and it can and will get better
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- 24w
TW! please someone comment When I was 12 or 13 I used to babysit a little girl, she had a habit of keeping her hand in her diaper and was always touching herself, there was one point I was changing her diaper and noticed she was really red. I had separated her private parts and checked the inner area for signs of infection. She was okay, just some really really bad diaper rash. I know this is what happened yet my brain is trying to convince me that I hurt her, and that I wanted to do it, I know I would never hurt a child but with all the anxiety I feel when I think about it I'm starting to wonder if I did do it because I wanted to hurt her, I don't wanna be a p, I don't wanna hurt innocent children, I used to never have these thoughts but now I do and I'm so scared to tell my therapist as she hasn't diagnosed me with ocd yet. I don't want her to think I'm a p nor do I wanna hurt kids, but my brain keeps telling me that I do and that I'm just lying to myself and everyone around me, ik I would never do something that could harm a child but I keep getting these thoughts and their inappropriate and I just want them to stop, does anyone have any tips on how to help myself? I keep turning to my boyfriend for reassurance but ik that that's just a quick fix and that ill be spiraling about it again.Please help
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Was listening to the diarrhea song cuz I remember hearing it as a kid, this one guys version ended with “when she’s sitting on your face and you get a bad taste.” Anywho I had a whole thing bc of that involving different people but the main one that’s bothering me is I thought of my sister and her bf. They’re pretty edgy and I guess in general edgy people are freaky. Anywho I had the urge to imagine them while he gives her oral. And I tried to ignore it but it seemed too real and so I gave in and imagined it. And shocked, I think I liked it. Whether it’s because it’s sexual in nature so it was a general thing, or a taboo thing and that’s why I liked it BECAUSE it was gross and I shouldn’t think about it. But anyhow people say ocd can’t make you do things but I believe it still in a way made me purposely think that. Any words of advice appreciated !!
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I was self pleasuring and as I was climaxing already my sister popped into my head and I indulged in it for a second. Then it happened again later where I was already climaxing and jt made me climax harder. And often when I have intrusive thoughts during the actual process, the taboo stuff will start to make the sounds build up and I’ll stop bc I don’t want to get off to it even tho I’m tempted to chase it. But sometimes I’ll let the taboo stuff build it up and when I climax I ONLY focus on the feeling not the thought so it doesn’t count as me getting off to it, but idk if it does or not. Point is, I need HELP!
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