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I’ll definitely have POCD for the rest of my life because it’s from my sexual abuse as a child. So I just need to push through sex no matter what pops up in my head— but then I have to deal with the “what if you’re turned on by what I just showed you?” An endless cycle of stupidity ?
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In my personal opinion, you should go ahead with sex. Avoiding it does nothing to make the images go away. I have personally just powered thru things like this because avoiding will not make it disappear. Totally sucky I know. But your brain will get tired of it and move on.
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I agree. Avoiding something just in case the image pops up gives that image power. It tells your brain that the image is dangerous or wrong. That will make the image become more and more distressing over time
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Thank you for the help!
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No problem...I also go thru this and it's the worse type of hell. But you deep down know your core values and this is just something that this disorder fixates on of course until it gets bored and moves onto something else. That's important to keep in mind and not letting it win or have control over you cause if we let it it can. Just carry on with your day as if these thoughts aren't on your head and eventually they will leave. I wish there was some way to not go thru all this but there isnt so we must take charge the best way we can. You will be fine and do not let this crap damage your real life marriage
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Yes it will not be easy...with time you will recognize these thoughts as OCD messing with you and won't assign meaning to them...cause they mean nothing. And with our disorder we do think they define us. But it doesnt. I wish our own brains wouldn't work against us. However hard this may be, we can get better
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I’ve definitely gotten better at recognizing what is and isn’t OCD thoughts and most of them don’t bother me, but there’s just certain thoughts and images that I know still get to me and I know I have to get over it, but arggghhh! It’s hard lol
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Absolutely. It sucks but we will be okay
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Do the flashes of his face bother you at other times of the day, or you are fine usually but predicting they will bother you during sex?
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They don’t usually bother me but I know that if I start worrying over them during the day, they definitely could.
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I know what my brain is doing, so that’s why I’m aware of what’s going on. I still am often hesitant to have sex though, which I know isn’t a good thing. I do eventually have sex, just not when I want to, kinda thing.
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As uncomfortable as it is, do it anyway. Yes it will give u anxiety and yes u still may have intrusive thoughts but you must show your OCD that YOU are boss. I know its it's easier said than done but your marriage will suffer because of this made up crap that doesnt exist...cause that what the thoughts OCD gives us are. Made up crap that distress us. Start thinking of it that way and it can and will get better
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Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
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Hi NOCD community, I was hoping to get some advice from fellow sufferers. In December we welcomed the first baby into the family, my beautiful niece. Since then, my POCD has been awful, which I know is probably very normal. Last week, in the middle of a very high stress day in my family, I was changing my niece and as usually happens, I got intrusive thoughts about awful things people do to babies when changing them. The thoughts were so harrowing to have as I was also changing her at the exact same time, and I felt my hands just quickly want to finish patting her dry before putting her nappy on, and for some reason, my heart dropped with that hand movement, because I was afraid that I had acted out the awful thoughts in my head, in a moment of mania because my morals, values and heart do not align with abuse of any kind, especially to children. My niece is my everything, and I know I would never want harm to come to her in any way, shape or form. I love her endlessly. I am having therapy, but have only had a couple of sessions. But, I cannot shake the 'what if'. I am tortured over trying to remember what it was I did that made my heart drop, but I can't, and its getting fuzzier and fuzzier the more I try to remember. Could anyone offer any advice on this please? Thank you.
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i’m struggling. so i’m a nanny and i had an intrusive thought to like do something bad to him so i was very upset crying saying i don’t want to do it but as i was changing him i got closer to it to see if i would actually do it and i got grossed out. now im feel extremely guilty i even got closer.
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