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What kind of help are you planning to request?
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A friend who has gone through a lot of hospitalizations and become a very vocal advocate in the community spoke recently about ERP. As we are at home and learning new coping mechanisms anyway, I am ready for the challenge. It’s as good a time as any to really tear myself down to the studs and rebuild. Since I don’t need to be as productive and disciplined in other arenas in life at the moment, I have the emotional energy to do my homework right now and the usual outlets for distraction to not face myself have been removed. I was starting talk therapy for the first the right before lockdown but only for the relationship trauma that I wasn’t ready to admit was actually trauma. I keep trying ways to cope with general anxiety by distracting myself (like exercise) instead of actually understanding what’s happening so I can grow. This virus ordeal has brought back up some childhood OCD and it what made me see that I’m spiraling like I did as a child just I’ve learned to hide it in my mind. That was “treated” with harsh tough love so maybe explains why I buried it so only I can “see” it. How did you first start facing getting help? I’m not good at talking aloud. Slightly better at writing but I can’t express my thoughts well so getting help from another person is hard.
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@ParanoiaParalyzed I ended up in the hospital for major depression and suicidal ideation While there, I was diagnosed with OCD. I always suspected that I had OCD but wasn't sure because I was not the stereotypical hand washer or door lock/stove knob checker. Have you reached an emotional bottom where you are prepared to do the tough stuff that lies ahead in OCD treatment?
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@Fear Strikes Out I attempted suicide 7 years ago and hadn’t had feelings like that until last year but I pushed them down. They bubbled up again recently. I lost everything when I walked away from my last major relationship (literally this isn’t an exaggeration... he was a con artist... literally everything including him bullying me out of my career, alienating me from my friends, draining me financially and putting me in debt for him, and never letting me move out keeping all of my things including heirlooms, etc) but I was numb then and I moved across the country with nothing to get out of his reach. I’m feeling raw now. I’ve spent the majority of last year or so sitting in silence most days just alone in my thoughts trying to cope alone. I hibernated by choice before this lockdown. Now that the pressure is off for the time being to try to start a new life here in a hurry, I want to stop the spiral. I am not as low as I was last year but I’m on that path again. I hit rock bottom and bounced and I’m heading back down. I want to do it right this time.
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@ParanoiaParalyzed I think that working on the OCD as a priority makes a lot of sense. One of your apparent compulsions is ruminating aboutpast events. As you know, that's a real rabbit hole. Once learning how to manage the OCD, you may want to revisit the childhood trauma you mentioned with a talk therapist. Are you thinking about seeing an OCD therapist or learning and applying ERP on your own, hopefully with some self-compassion mixed in. Do you think that you will be able to build up a support network of a few good friends in your new location?
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Go for it. It sounds like you have had such a difficult life so far... you have suffered enough. It’s really not easy to open up. It’s very painful to lay something so deeply buried bare like that. But you’re an incredible person. You deserve better. You don’t need to jump in all at once. A first step would just be getting in touch with a therapist that will be good for you, who is comparable, and trained in your area of dificulties, and just expressing, that you seek help, and have a hard time expressing, but would love to get something going. Your experiences sound really rough. I’m sorry that all that happened to you. You can succeed in this you’re clearly very resilient. Go for it!
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You are right! It IS time to turn a new page
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And I firmly believe, being as aware as you are, that you will succeed this time
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