I want to ask the girls who are dealing with HOCD: do any of you deal with social anxiety and/or have low self-confidence. Wondering if this one of the causes for why I feel uncomfy with men sometimes. I feel like a lesbian after todays panic attack, and feeling “straight” now feels forced.

Sexual Orientation OCD

ShiningBright

Date posted: 5y

Yes and that’s why it attacked me . I am still a virgin and I’m interested in a guy and I am ready to have children and that’s when my hocd evolved into tocd . OCD often attacks sexual nature I heard cuz it’s important to us .

starry duck

Date posted: 5y

I'm still a teen but i can relate :/ Like i fear that ill be judged by the guy i'm dating (omg my thoughts said i was lying when i said "guy")

leham

Date posted: 5y

Definitely me here! Just thinking now....I feel like I may be asking reassurance for people to tell me the amount of nerves I get is normal. And I feel relieved when others talk about how nervous they get and how much they dread first dates and stuff. But I can’t tell if it’s because it makes me feel less isolated from a social anxiety perspective or if that’s reassurance! Just thought about that

leham

Date posted: 5y

Thought I’d add: I’m so scared of it all I literally haven’t been on a proper date and I’m 21!!!!?

juki

Date posted: 5y

@Leah?? haven't had a boyfriend and I'm 23 ?‍♀️ I'm high on anxiety and low on self confidence. some ladies have old souls and know what they're looking for. lol

leham

Date posted: 5y

@juki Haha I’ve always felt like that!! Like I’m too mentally ‘old’ and boring for the guys my age. Heavy on the boring part which makes me feel self conscious and the cycle perpetuates itself lol. And my friends tell me I’m being too picky but if I don’t like a dude- I don’t like him! I’m looking for something I like haha!:)

juki

Date posted: 5y

@Leah?? omg totally!! I love being by myself for nearly days at a time, and I've always known what I wanted in a guy. we have to remember that being picky/having high standards is completely fine. it can get lonely, but why be with a guy if I don't truly like him! ?‍♀️?

starry duck

Date posted: 5y

@Leah?? I relate to this so much!! I'm not the type of girl that likes ever guy I see, so it's hard to date with this mindset haah

juki

Date posted: 5y

omg me too! I have cripplingly low self esteem, and I haven't pursued/wanted to be pursued because I'm so convinced that no guy will want me. I also didn't really have a father, so now I get crushes on every guy I meet because I don't know how to differentiate between friends and crushes.... anyway, I feel self conscious with men but I still like them. and I don't like imagining myself with a girl. is that relatable to you? or anyone? :o

tolandkm

Date posted: 5y

Yes! I understand what you are going through completely!

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