Is it normal when you try and ask yourself ‘Do I really want this/want to do this’ you feel like you can’t answer? With my sexual obsessions it’s like I can’t stick to my values and morals because every time I say ‘well I wouldn’t ever do that in real life’ my brain is like ‘but how do you really know if you don’t want to...’ so how can I stick to my values?

yes this happens to me A LOT i hate it. but that’s exactly what ocd does. it makes u doubt ur morals and values. u just have to stop asking ur self that question and let it be there. “maybe i want this, maybe i don’t. i don’t need to know right now” and i promise your brain will stop sending u the thought obsessively cause it’ll see that you don’t think it’s important anymore. i’ve gotten rid of so many false memory themes with this method. it rlly works

Hi, I struggle with this, too. But in addition, I also struggle with getting the opposite response of what I actually want it to be. So, for example, I might get an answer such as 'yes, I do want it', and the answer would feel absolutely true and convincing. The most frightening thing, however, is that the answer also comes with strong sensations, including groinal responses, which are really hard to ignore.

I would like to apologise if my post has caused you any offense/harm or if it was intrusive.

Through this journey I have come to understand that people who say things like they're sure about X, Y, Z and they "really don't like" such things, are actually speaking from a place of emotion. Half those people might actually end up doing those very things at some point in their lives too. So the moral of that, for me, is that we, saying we're uncertain and who knows, maybe I'm that person, are actually more honest you know? In truth everyone is just saying whatever, they don't "know" either. Nobody knows.