Is it normal when you try and ask yourself ‘Do I really want this/want to do this’ you feel like you can’t answer? With my sexual obsessions it’s like I can’t stick to my values and morals because every time I say ‘well I wouldn’t ever do that in real life’ my brain is like ‘but how do you really know if you don’t want to...’ so how can I stick to my values?

Username: c444tmommyc444tmommy

Date posted: 4y ago

yes this happens to me A LOT i hate it. but that’s exactly what ocd does. it makes u doubt ur morals and values. u just have to stop asking ur self that question and let it be there. “maybe i want this, maybe i don’t. i don’t need to know right now” and i promise your brain will stop sending u the thought obsessively cause it’ll see that you don’t think it’s important anymore. i’ve gotten rid of so many false memory themes with this method. it rlly works

Username: Soph Soph

Date posted: 4y ago

yeah it’s so hard I really need to apply that method more! it’s tricky to remember it when new random stuff comes up. this is kinda tmi as well but relating to sexual fantasy/taboo stuff as well it’s a really tangled line bcos I think every human being has crazy fantasy stuff that they know realistically they’d never do, but for someone with ocd it attacks all those things that I think are just human and part of our weird brains

Username: c444tmommyc444tmommy

Date posted: 4y ago

@Soph yes exactly! another user on here named scoggy gave me rlly good advice where they said that making as many grey areas as possible with taboo stuff makes it easier to accept uncertainty about it. and accepting that people do have weird kinks or fantasies that they would never act on makes it easier to accept that maybe that applies to u maybe it doesn’t. esp if ur dealing with real event /false memory

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 4y ago

Hi, I struggle with this, too. But in addition, I also struggle with getting the opposite response of what I actually want it to be. So, for example, I might get an answer such as 'yes, I do want it', and the answer would feel absolutely true and convincing. The most frightening thing, however, is that the answer also comes with strong sensations, including groinal responses, which are really hard to ignore.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 4y ago

I would like to apologise if my post has caused you any offense/harm or if it was intrusive.

Username: little rabbitlittle rabbit

Date posted: 4y ago

Through this journey I have come to understand that people who say things like they're sure about X, Y, Z and they "really don't like" such things, are actually speaking from a place of emotion. Half those people might actually end up doing those very things at some point in their lives too. So the moral of that, for me, is that we, saying we're uncertain and who knows, maybe I'm that person, are actually more honest you know? In truth everyone is just saying whatever, they don't "know" either. Nobody knows.

Username: T.

Date posted: 6y ago

I feel like my head is so messed up. I tell myself, you wouldn't do the things you think about and fear, you have morals. But then I question if my morals are strong enough? Or if my morals have changed at all? I never used to question things like this until my ocd really flared up in the beginning of September, and it's sort of been hell since. Questioning myself, questioning my morals, questioning my intentions, feelings, everything. My main obsession right now is if I find the thoughts enjoyable or not. I feel constantly uncomfortable, uneasy, and anxious. Whenever I see kids in real life I feel fine, I know I'm not attracted to them. But when I'm in my head and the thoughts pop up I question everything and worry that I enjoy them, even though I don't feel bad about kids for the most part in real life? The thoughts are never usually even explicit, it's just like, do you see children in a sexual i ed way? Did you imagine that child in a sexual used way? And I bounce back and forth between being like "no, I'm fine, I know I'm not a pedophile, I find the thought of pedophilia disgusting," and "constant anxiety worrying that I am one and that I only feel anxiety all the time because deep down I know I'm a bad person." Does anyone else share any experiences similar to mine or have any words of wisdom?

Username: PRIV8

Date posted: 1y ago

Question about suicidal ocd

My question is that did you always can tell that you dont want to do it. It got me to a place where i read "i know i dont want to do it" gets me triggered and sad cause i feel like i dont know. Because if i would know i wouldnt be scared. Sometimes it even feels like i want to do it. I had times when i got angry that im afraid of it, like its makes me angry that i dont want to do it, idk i might misinterpret it. In those moments its really hard to tell what you feel, thats why i dont like to engage in it, last time i tried to see if its my real value to die, and i felt like yes it is and it scared me. I hate when then the feeling that you had enough gets into this too, then these thoughts gets so disturbing and i cant tell what i want. Because of anger its like i follow the thoughts, i dont do anything but its like im changing my values to i rather die. Maybe i misinterpret values with emotions. But in those times its really hard to diffirenciate the two

Username: gp

Date posted: 45w ago

Behave based on your values?

So many posts I’ve seen say ‘treat the thought as a thought and behave based on your values’ I have SOOCD. It’s so confusing I have no idea what my values are anymore. Do I assume whatever i was into before ocd started is my values? Like I don’t think I have any real ambition/want for a relationship with a guy, but I’m so numb, it’s been so long, I have no idea? What to do?

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