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- 5y
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- 5y
yes this happens to me A LOT i hate it. but that’s exactly what ocd does. it makes u doubt ur morals and values. u just have to stop asking ur self that question and let it be there. “maybe i want this, maybe i don’t. i don’t need to know right now” and i promise your brain will stop sending u the thought obsessively cause it’ll see that you don’t think it’s important anymore. i’ve gotten rid of so many false memory themes with this method. it rlly works
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- 5y
yeah it’s so hard I really need to apply that method more! it’s tricky to remember it when new random stuff comes up. this is kinda tmi as well but relating to sexual fantasy/taboo stuff as well it’s a really tangled line bcos I think every human being has crazy fantasy stuff that they know realistically they’d never do, but for someone with ocd it attacks all those things that I think are just human and part of our weird brains
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- 5y
@Soph yes exactly! another user on here named scoggy gave me rlly good advice where they said that making as many grey areas as possible with taboo stuff makes it easier to accept uncertainty about it. and accepting that people do have weird kinks or fantasies that they would never act on makes it easier to accept that maybe that applies to u maybe it doesn’t. esp if ur dealing with real event /false memory
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- 5y
Hi, I struggle with this, too. But in addition, I also struggle with getting the opposite response of what I actually want it to be. So, for example, I might get an answer such as 'yes, I do want it', and the answer would feel absolutely true and convincing. The most frightening thing, however, is that the answer also comes with strong sensations, including groinal responses, which are really hard to ignore.
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- 5y
I would like to apologise if my post has caused you any offense/harm or if it was intrusive.
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- 5y
Through this journey I have come to understand that people who say things like they're sure about X, Y, Z and they "really don't like" such things, are actually speaking from a place of emotion. Half those people might actually end up doing those very things at some point in their lives too. So the moral of that, for me, is that we, saying we're uncertain and who knows, maybe I'm that person, are actually more honest you know? In truth everyone is just saying whatever, they don't "know" either. Nobody knows.
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- 20w
I was looking up stuff about kinks, because my friend is trying to help me "get out there", and I took the bdsm test to see where I land on it. I got 100% vanilla, and I was a little embarassed so I decided to Google things like "is it normal to not have a lot of kinks" or "what % of the population is into kink" and when I scrolled down a bit, I clicked on one of the little suggestion things with the arrow that said "are men more prone to enjoying kink than women" and it revealed a blurb from the website that said that men are in fact more inclined to kink, but also mentioned that it also means they're more inclined to p*dophellia, which sort of set off all these questions in my head of like "Wait so if p*dophellia is just a kink, does that make it more likely that I have it? Because scientenists still don't know what causes it so what if events in my childhood led up to me having it to some extent" and I started kind of going down this internal rabbit hole of trying to figure out how likely it is that I have it or some form of it bc if it's just a kink and not a mental illness than it feels more feasible? Idk I'm a woman so ik it's not AS common in us but it's still possible. I'm doing a little better with redirecting my attention and cooling my anxiety but I had an onslaught of intrusive images before falling asleep like I used to have when I first started experiencing this fear. It's been really catapulting me back to the beginning and I find that I'm ruminating on when it started and if it really means I'm a p or not. I know it's classic ocd but it's hard when it doesn't feel that way ;-; anyway, I'm too scared to Google bc i know it'll be a form of reassurance but also I'm just scared of having anything related to that in my search history so I just thought I'd post here. Anyone else have conflicting thoughts like this?
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- 19w
I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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- 17w
Help! My OCD has caught onto this thought for awhile and I keep spinning on it. I know you are supposed to follow your values and what your actions suggest with OCD, but what if that is even blurry right know? For example my whole life I wanted to be with a man, and now my OCD is having major intrusive thoughts about women. How do you tell if those thoughts are wanted or not? I can’t figure out if I like the thoughts or not. I’m trying to live the life “I want” but what if I don’t know what that is?
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