Okay I really really need some help!! Please anyone. Someone said that even if you have ROCD your partner can still not be the one for you because maybe you’re not compatible. They also said that your partner can be an amazing person and make you feel appreciative but is just not the one for you... appreciating someone and being grateful for having them is different than loving them. This completely scared me. They also said that people that stay with their partner then they fall out of love usually are only staying with them because they are living through memories or they fear being alone and I am TERRIFIED this is me. I love looking back on memories and times when I felt happy with my bf even when I’m feeling down. I have also always been someone that doesn’t like being alone but I have friends and family too. I feel like crying and crying because hearing this has been hard on me. Any advice on how to handle this?

I think it’s important for you to firstly understand that you and your partner splitting up is a possibility, it is also important your partner understands your current situation. A huge part of dealing with ocd is accepting the uncertainty. However it looks to me like you love your partner very much so you and him splitting up anytime soon seems unlikely. Try to focus on other things as much as you can and when the doubts or unwanted thoughts arise say to yourself “okay that’s interesting” and redirect your focus. Without giving too much attention to the thought, also never ruminate or try to understand what that thought means. It will put you in an endless cycle. Stay positive and when you feel overwhelmed take a deep breath. Get enough sleep with a good sleeping pattern, drink enough water, get enough exercise and even try mindfulness practices. These will all help your mental health and fight anxiety and depression. Good luck ?