- Username
- kg22!
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Trigger: my own spiritual beliefs as a Christian: The true good news of the gospel is that we aren’t sent to hell because god gave us Jesus so that nothing can separate us from his love and salvation. I pray that this good news brings you peace whenever you read something about hell.
The whole point of this post was not to say people cannot have their own beliefs, or that people cannot talk about religious OCD themes, but that as an LGBT member, to see members of this community continuously talking about homosexuality as a sin (again NOT the people even posting about religious ocd themes, but people in comment sections) it makes it feels like lgbt aren’t as accepted and like I can’t post about my themes or worries because it will be viewed negatively.
This app definitely does feel very unwelcoming to me. I see some of these comments and they make me feel angry and hurt.
I agree, people with OCD often unintentionally say really hurtful things. The comments are coming from a place of pain, but that doesn't make them ok. There are ways to talk about OCD symptoms without being offensive. I'd encourage you to take advantage of the flagging tool.
I wish I could just share pics of my pup, Bowie, in his rainbow bandana, to let you know where we stand on this. I’m living an outwardly heteronormative life, but appearances only go skin deep. Either way, I know I’m not the target group of some of these posts or comments, and I too have felt from uncomfortable to insulted by them. I’m sorry I wasn’t at better ally and scrolled past them without action. I know most initial posts are people dealing with real, annoying, scary, confusing OCD themes, and I’ve ignored the comments that are hurtful that follow those initial posts. If you believe in God, or any higher power, who made this world, then believe that He/She/They made all the colors of the rainbow. Love is love!
Thank you. ❤️?
Thank you! This response was truly heart warming!
this isn't designed for black,white lgbt etc etc. It designed for everyone and your going to see things that. People are in different stages of healing right now. You're going to see things that may trigger you heck some of it triggers me sometimes. Have you tried talking to some of the people on who make the posts?
Yeah I definitely get that! Not the point of my post at all! So basically for example (this is just one example I’ve seen it multiple times) but a guy posted about being scared of going to hell for being gay (which I was literally FINE with, not triggering to me one bit) but in the comment section multiple people were talking about how being gay is in fact a sin, and that it’s unacceptable in gods eyes. Again, the point of my post has nothing to do with people who are healing, but rather the people who don’t really consider others on this app who don’t hold the same beliefs as them. Hope hat clears it up
I posted a community awareness post for you , asking if everyone could be mindful that posting about that is triggering. Hopefully it makes this a safer place little by little.
That’s really nice of you. I appreciate it! It’s not so much that it’s even triggering, but it just is bothersome that people don’t consider other demographics when making hateful statements. Thank you again
You are so loved and I’m sorry you feel this way. I will do everything in my power to help!
Thank you so much!!!
people share their fears here , we are trying to get help since we are struggling , i dont really understand where is the problem
I’ve explained it twice :) not sure where the confusion lies! Again, does not bother me one bit that people have these fears or beliefs but the people in the comment sections of these posts who continually say being gay is a sin, yes, it’s a problem for people who are gay.
@kg22! i am muslim and in our religion being homosexual is a sin. as a believer i cant just turn a blind eye to what is forbidden, i cant just twist holy words ...im sorry if this ever offends you
@kamilia Right.... so yes.... this is further proving my point.
@kg22! some of us are religious here, you too should be understanding dear...
@kamilia Which is fine :) I believe in god too. all I’m saying is maybe don’t tell believe they’re going to hell based on your personal beliefs on a public forum app that is for healing. That’s like me telling you you’re going to hell for being Muslim because it doesn’t align with my personal beliefs. (Which I don’t believe, but it’s an example) Beliefs aren’t fact so we really shouldn’t treat them that way on this app because like you said this app is for healing, not certain demographics. This really is not the place for these types of comments. So no, people telling me I’m going to hell isnt necessary, and maybe you should learn to turn a blind eye when people aren’t asking you for your personal opinion on their sexuality (because again, you felt the need to make the comment about YOUR belief of homosexuality being a sin when I did not ask at all). I just think posting things like this based on personal beliefs makes no sense, especially when nobody asked.
@kamilia Okay I’m religious and bisexual. I FIRMLY believe that God made me bisexual for a reason. Different theologies exist so yeah I understand what op means when it feels unwelcoming when I myself am a believer, lgbt, and also suffering from ocd.
@9jewels Same. I’m bi and have religious ocd, but my beleif that God loves me has never been in doubt, despite so much else being in doubt for me. There are theologians in every religion that can argue in favor of same sex love.
@Nikki1809 Thank you for your comment, it feels nice to have people understand where I am coming from
@9jewels Same! That’s how I feel too. Thank you for commenting it really feels nice to have people agreeing with me and see where I am coming from
It’s ridiculous how much people discussing HOCD bothers me. I know it’s a form of OCD, which I understand is out of the person’s control. I know mental illness is not a choice. I have OCD, so I get it. I get invasive thoughts about being hetero, so it makes sense that it works the other way too. I know the people who have HOCD aren’t necessarily homophobic. It does kind of make me feel like my sexuality is a worst case scenario, though. I can’t help but think “people are as afraid of being like me, as I am of heart attacks”. Idk. It just almost feels like people are saying “oh no what if I’m gay” “don’t worry, you’re straight. You’re okay because you’re straight” (which I know isn’t the case). It could just be because of the lack of positivity I’ve seen surrounding the queer community lately, though. I’m not trying to call out or invalidate people with HOCD though, I know it’s something that they don’t enjoy, and it’s something they suffer with just as much as I suffer with my OCD. Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest
I’m new to the site but not at all new to OCD. I’ve seen a lot of posts about “hocd” and just generally posts about people thinking they’re gay or whatever. I’m a lesbian and honestly it’s a really confusing and awful thing to see. I’m sure the posts aren’t literally homophobic but like, it’s shitty to go on an app to help your mental illness and then to see people portray homosexuality as an illness!!!! I know that there could be straight people who have these intrusive thoughts but HEY!! I had those intrusive thoughts too and I ended up being gay. I thought it was all anxiety but it wasn’t! It just feels so weird to see this stuff. If I saw those posts as a teenager, I might still be closeted and self-hating. Anyone else have thoughts?
Any tips on not taking other people’s ocd personally?? I’m a lesbian with SOOCD where I obsess over being straight/attracted to men. It’s been beneficial to use this app and look at posts from others with SOOCD because it gives me some perspective. However, it’s uncomfortable to see the fear that people have over the idea of being gay because I already feel like being gay is wrong/gross/scary and my brain takes those posts as “proof” that being gay is wrong so I’m horrible. I know that this is NOT a rational thing to think but my obsession on this topic are so intrusive I just can’t help falling into that train of thought. Essentially. I feel like this app is a double edged sword so I’m unsure of if it’s even worth it to continue looking at it.
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