What do you do if you feel like you can’t get away from some people who call themselves ‘friends’ but you know that they don’t actually care for you and are no good for you? Since my mental health has been getting worse over these past few months, I have felt like I’ve hit rock bottom. My best friend of twelve years has more or less been avoiding to come and see me. I clearly know that it’s because of the way I feel at the moment & it’s not easy to be around me but I more or less try to hide it all when I’m around people anyway. I feel like most people around me are so bad for me, they add no good into my life and it sure does show when you are going through a bad time who your friends are! Any advice?

Then they aren’t friends, simple as, when I told my friends, they were so understanding and were there for me. You just need to focus on you, stop adding unnecessary stress to the stress you already have. Sorry if this was no help

Omg I just went through something similar. I've been friends with this one girl, we'll call her V, since 2012. We met in high school, super fun to hang out with, nice to talk to, etc. But as we got older and started college and real jobs, she started to change & not in a good way. Suddenly it was all about her. She'd have a problem, ask for advice, then do the opposite. She put herself in such bad situations and I'd always get dragged into it. V told me back in may or June of 2018 that she might have to cut me out of her life for a while because I'm "too negative" well jeez, sorry about the depression. She's got her own issues and she felt like we were bringing each other down but she was willing to keep at it for a while longer. Fast forward to August and that's when I cut her out of my life. There was an incident that made me realise how bad of an influence she really was. Our values didn't match up whatsoever and once we stopped talking I felt so much lighter. She wasn't happy about what I did, but she understood. I believe that people are in your life for a reason. Maybe that friendship has run its course & you both got what you needed out of it. Everything is a learning experience. You need to do what's best for you & if that means cutting out the negative person in your life, then go for it. At the end of the day you've gotta be the one that's there for you. If they wont be there for you, you have no reason to stick around. Those are fake friends & will just bring you down even more. Sorry for the rant.

I am so with you about the ‘too negative’ thing, literally I understand completely! And my friend always goes on about how I shouldn’t be so negative and that I need to change my mind. She talks of it almost as if it’s a switch I choose to have on, like it’s so easy & thing is she made a funny comment last week saying why am I acting weird with her? She’s not the reason why I feel like this?! I was like I’m not really chatting much to anyone because I need to keep my head down and try to concentrate on putting things right for my life. I just feel like bad people follow me or attract me. It’s not just her though but it seems to be the majority of them bar one or two of them. I literally just feel like changing my number or leaving and starting fresh! That’s what I want and feel like I need to do anyway. But if I cut them all of they will think what the hell and that I’m weird etc but friends don’t do the things these friends do to me if you get me! I’m glad you managed to cut your ties with her, she didn’t sound at all helpful for your mental health and that’s exactly how I feel! I’m so glad someone understands.

I've been trying to say the opposite of how I'm feeling. Meaning that if I feel like something won't work out, I'll tell myself that yes, it will & everything will be fine (even if I don't believe it). You attract what you put out. There's a movie on Netflix called "The Secret" directed by Drew Herlot. I watched it in my communications class a few years ago & I highly suggest it. It's about the law of attraction & how you attract what you put out. For example, you're more likely to find a parking spot if you keep telling yourself that you will. On the other hand, if you keep telling yourself that something bad will happen, you'll think it into existence. Once you become aware of your thoughts, that's a really good first step to changing your outlook on life & everything else. Once I cut that girl out I was able to focus more on me and my issues. I've fixed relationships with my friends and some family that I haven't spoken to and going to therapy with my boyfriend. I also want to move so so badly. I want to leave here and all these shitty memories that I have. I know that moving won't fix everything, but it might help clear my head from the everyday monotonous routines that I have built up over the years. Change is good. Start with positivity changing your mindset & better things will start happening

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Thank you so much, I feel much more positive energy already from knowing I’m not the only person going through it or have bad people around me. It’s good to know some people understand or have experienced the same, it doesn’t make you feel as lonely. I totally agree with the whole law of attraction thing, I’m a huge believer in that! I’ll have a watch. Thank you for sharing everything with me! I’ll definitely be taking steps in the right direction x

No problem! It definitely helps to hear that you're not alone. We got this!! Good luck :)