takingmylifeback
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Lazarus85Lazarus85
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Trust your senses because they represent the reality unlike your ocd worries. So if your worries start with "what if" you can be sure that, it's your ocd talking. So just let the thought in, stay with it, just feel and don't react to the anxiety and fear. Just feel and let the anxiety go down again without judging yourself, this is ERP. I can only guess but it's like waxing your leg, you know it's gonna hurt but once you do it often it will not hurt as much each time. Well this is the same thing with ERP and it's not because it become less stressful that you will become more comfortable being gay. That would be a false ocd assumption.
AnonymousAnonymous
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What if I leave my boyfriend for a girl?? I’ve never had feeling for a girl ever and I don’t ever want to be with a girl. My brain just tells me I will ????
Lazarus85Lazarus85
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@anon You started your post with " what if" which is clearly just your ocd talking. Then you say you don't want to be with a girl, well then, just don't. You see being gay is determined by your actions and by that I mean searching actively to get a full relationship with another girl. So since you just fear it and not searching for it to get real then it's hocd. Anyway a real sexual orientation just feel good in every way possible. So if you feel fear, anxiety, disgust and whatnots, then it's not who you are and it's just hocd. Did you get to practice ERP before? If not, it could be a great idea, because it's the most effective way to get rid of ocd. Ocd is like a bully who blindfolded you so you can see the reality and he is torturing you by falsely describing what you should see. And of course, he doesn't want you to lift that blindfold to have a peak, because the torture will end so he is making empty threats by saying that if you're not reacting to his intrusives ideas, your fear will become true. But it's all fake. Erp is like lifting up that blindfold and see for yourself, that everything your ocd bully had been describing to you is wrong. So if you let the intrusives thoughts or whatever come, and if you just feel and don't react, until the anxiety goes down, you will see that nothing happened. You will still be straight. One more thing you said that your brain is telling you that you want a same sex relationship and it's normal but false. It's normal because each time you react to the ocd thoughts, you're according meaning to it and so this signal to your brain that this is real. Thus that's why your hocd feel real and you feel like you actually want a girl to be with you but it's just your hocd and it's still fake.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@Lazarus85 Any suggestions for self guided ERP?
takingmylifebacktakingmylife...
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Yes I have taken every what if thought and not even payed attention to it but now since my ocd knows that I don’t pay attention to those thoughts it just gives me thoughts as if they were actual facts. Like “I am” or “it like this”. Thank you so much for your advice I am gonna keep that in mind
Lazarus85Lazarus85
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I don't know good workbooks on erp specifically but this app offer those services and even online therapy. I never used this app for therapy because i already have a therapist. So althought i don't recommend doing this on your own because there's so many pitfalls you could encounter and this where a therapist guidance is really really useful. Don't get me wrong, it's feasible to do it on you own but it's not the easiest way. Either way you will have to really be committed to it in order to work. But I can tell you that it works, it's really hard but it's so much worth it.
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