Hi. My boyfriend of 2 & a half years broke up with me two days ago. It was very uncalled for and I don’t wanna get into it. There were no major problems in our relationship but we did lack a bit of communication skills. I’ve been crying for those two day’s straight, and today in the morning. Then I randomly came across a video on manifestation on tik tok (I didn’t look for it, it was on my “for you” page) & there were others on how to get your ex back and the number one thing it said is to stay positive and continue to think that we’re still together & that he loves me & not to cry because it negative etc etc. Ever since I read that I can’t cry anymore. So now my ocd is kicking in on why I’m not crying anymore & don’t feel incredibly sad, even though I think it’s because I have hope we’ll get back together. Also, my ocd is telling me I wanna be single and experience “new people” meanwhile I know I love him and want him in my future. Past ocd like my fear of flirting & cheating is coming up, and it’s telling me that’s what I wanted all along. I’m just confused and want ocd to leave me alone during this hard time. I’m hoping for the best for him and I. I love him.

lauren77

Date posted: 5y

Hey! Break ups are terrible and they can trigger a lot of issues especially if you have OCD. I do think the “manifestation” tik toks can be kinda dangerous, coming from personal experience. It hurts, but focusing on the present and what actually happened is important. Being able to say: “we broke up. we are no longer together” is important that way you’re in the right headspace to heal. This first week is probably going to be challenging, given that it’s only been a few days since you broke up. I know your OCD will likely make you pick apart everything in your relationship and wonder where it went wrong, I’ve done the same during break ups. If you ever need someone who understands how it feels, I’m open to talk!

Kea

Date posted: 5y

If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your experience? I’m a very spiritual person so I really do believe in manifestation, angels, spiritual guidance, etc.. I know that many times those with ocd tend to panic over the though of the law of attraction because they think that they’re attracting what their ocd is telling them, and I get that because it crossed my mind, but manifestation is really only for good purpose and things that you truly want. If you don’t truly want it, you won’t attract it. Therefore you can’t attract your ocd thoughts because as we all know on here, we do not want these ideas that ocd gives us. I guess also why there’s moments where I’m not as sad as I thought I was gonna be is because I still have hope, idk, it just doesn’t feel like it’s over at all. Maybe with time if we still end up broken up, it’ll hit me, who knows. But thank you so much for your advice, I’m just a rollercoaster of emotions right now. ?

Kea

Date posted: 5y

@Kea Thought*

Kea

Date posted: 5y

I cried a bit to a song but then the thought of it coming in between the law of attraction made me stop. In my head “we’re still together” so I guess that’s why I’m not hurting like yesterday. I don’t know anymore. I want to be sad, why wouldn’t I?? I love him with all my heart

lauren77

Date posted: 5y

of course! I understand it’s going to be a roller coaster for a while. and my experience is with a very similar situation, that’s why I was so compelled to respond :/ I am very spiritual as well, and I really believed that this manifestation would work. I wrote constantly in a journal what I wanted to manifest from him, how I wanted him to call me and reach out to me. He ended up hurting me even more if I had just tried to let it go and move on. Since I was so focused on getting him back, I pushed him completely away which was my biggest fear. I let it control me and take months away from my life, which was the worst my OCD has ever been. I know it’s scary, but it was kind of the moment I realized how much OCD affects me.

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