helplesslimerant

Date posted: 5y

i’m so confused. when i see pictures of girls who are like half naked i get aroused physically. but when i see a guy who’s like really sweet, fully clothed, smiling, laughing, i get aroused mentally for the most part, physically not so much. i think about wanting him to hold me, wanting to play with his hair, all this romantic shit. but when it’s girls it’s only down there, nothing happens in my head and when i try to make something happen in my head, it’s feels so weird and unnatural. is this normal. like this has always happened even before hocd. i never get aroused to girls when they’re clothed, like i couldn’t care what underneath. but for guys i do for both. but why do i get aroused to naked women if i’m straight? i don’t understand, it doesn’t make sense

Sexual Orientation OCD

gingernutter

Date posted: 5y

Apparently most girls can get aroused by anything, I mean, a lot of straight women actually choose to watch lesbian porn because they get off better to that than regular porn, and yet they’re still straight. I can get aroused by literally anything sexual, yet I don’t want to be with anyone but a man because that’s who I see myself with and who I choose as a sexual partner. We can get aroused by literally anything but it doesn’t determine who we desire to be with.

helplesslime...

Date posted: 5y

yh, that must be the reason why my porn viewing is so diverse. i watch anything really

kayleighetfgv

Date posted: 5y

Perfect exactly like me

kayleighetfgv

Date posted: 5y

@kayleighetfgv Wait not saying I’m perfect ahahaha I mean your comment it

gingernutter

Date posted: 5y

Everything you’re feeling, I’ve felt too. I get a response down there but freak out and it feels unnatural when I try to think about it unlike when I fantasise about men. I don’t get a response down there for men really, I tend to get an emotional response, I feel it in my chest and I’m mentally fantasising about it and think “I’d like to be with him”, I think everything we feel is normal, but because we have ocd it makes us overthink it all and dwell on the thoughts and feelings whereas normal people can just brush it off.

garden

Date posted: 5y

I feel the EXACT same

😶😐🥴

Date posted: 5y

Same here, I sometimes get erections when seeing something gay but mentally I hate it. With girls I get erect and I enjoy it mentally.

helplesslime...

Date posted: 5y

yh that’s me but with guys

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

I’m not sure this will make you feel better but I have the exact same reactions, before HOCD too

kayleighetfgv

Date posted: 5y

I have a few friends who do this too

YesYou

Date posted: 5y

For the sake of argument there is bi-sexual and bi-romantic

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

The thing is, I have this but I really have no desire to do anything with a girl, at least I think

kayleighetfgv

Date posted: 5y

Or bi curious ?

kayleighetfgv

Date posted: 5y

@kayleighetfgv There’s so many labels but you don’t need to label yourself at all if you don’t want to, you can just say ‘I’m human and love who I want to love’

helplesslime...

Date posted: 5y

@kayleighetfgv i’m not curious about girls. did you not read what i wrote

helplesslime...

Date posted: 5y

and i’m not romantic about girls either. all i get is a response down there when i see girls online half naked. it never happens in real life though. but on line when i see a guy half naked i don’t really get a response (unless it’s chris evans) but in real life, if i saw a guy shirtless, i’d probably just melt...

kayleighetfgv

Date posted: 5y

@ocdear I get it completely that’s just like me!!!!!! I know I did read what you wrote but sometimes we crave labels and it was just another option and I apoligise for offending! What I learnt is, what do you desire? Do you WANT to be with a man ? Then you can do that no one is stopping you :) I have a boyfriend so it’s hard for me so I just remember I have a choice

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

@ocdear OMG the online versus real life thing. I've always wondered if I get aroused by girls like that because they remind me of myself being naked which usually means its sexy time lmao. I guess what I'm saying is the girls remind me of my own sexuality and feelings about myself. Naked lady-reminds me of myself naked-makes me think of sexy time with my boyfriend.

helplesslime...

Date posted: 5y

@hateocd123 you experience the online a real life thing? i thought i was the only one

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

@ocdear Yes

Anonymous

Date posted: 5y

@hateocd123 Same here. I have a husband too so this is extra spooky lol

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