I met this girl online 5 months ago, we’ve been talking literally every single day, we talked on FaceTime weekly, the reason we never met was because I had to fly back home to care for my family when quarantine started. So we were both catching feelings for each other and everything was going amazing. Then this past week all of sudden she was acting distant, taking a really long time to respond to my texts and sometimes not even replying at all. After 2 days of no contact I decided to call her on FaceTime out of the blue. (Keep in mind that I did not blow up her phone asking why she hadn’t respond or stuff like that). I asked her on the call if she was okay and that she has been acting weird. She started crying and told me that she can’t do this anymore because she still has feelings for her guy best friend which she used to date. She said that she still wanted to be friends but I said I can’t be friends with someone I have feelings for. She told me she has feelings for me but the feelings for her friend are stronger. Shortly after we ended the call and I immediately removed her from all social media and she did the same. I don’t hate her or anything but she probably thinks I do since she said she was sorry for wasting my time and that maybe this would’ve worked out if we met in a different time. I haven’t talked to her or anything since that happened and that was on Saturday. I’ve been through breakups before but this is something different. Since we never actually dated and didn’t even met, theres so many questions about the what if. I find myself obsessing over her even though I have had the self control to not contact her nor stalk her via social media. This is literally all I can think about and I know I shouldn’t want her back but I still do. I know this is a very long post I just had to get this off my chest. What would you guys do? I struggle with GAD and OCD so this has not been optimal for my mental health. Thank you and have a great day.

ashco

Date posted: 4y

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this, but I commend you on your maturity and discipline. I think that you are doing everything perfectly and your thoughts are going to be messier and less able to control. I would suggest to try to not fight the thoughts/thinking about her, writing down some of what you are thinking, and distracting yourself/keeping busy as much as you can. I think that these things in time will end the distress, but the process is always messy. You will heal and meet another!!

Xanax

Date posted: 4y

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. I will write when I think about her🙏🏼

AnxietyGuy

Date posted: 4y

Xanax I was with my wife for 10 years when she told me she didn’t love me anymore and time me she wanted out of the marriage. It felt like my best friend putting a knife in my back. That’s how much it hurt me. She left me at the worst time of my life as right then at that time I was dealing hardcore with my OCD thoughts, compulsions and anxiety. I had to force myself to move forward. I’m currently in a relationship but I feel lonely. Who knows how much longer it will last I tell myself. I guess what I’m trying to say is that even though times get hard and break ups happen and we face mental health issues we have an inner spirit that goes on and the love that we feel for people goes on and somewhere out there somebody is just waiting for a person like us to come along to fill that gap in their life and give them a lifelong partner. Good luck my friend and never stop searching.

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