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- 4y
I had pcod before I got married and had children. My OCD themes changed a lot. Now I don't have pocd any more. I agree that you shouldn't make fear based decisions. Who knows what your OCD themes are going to be a few years from now.
I developed pocd from having my kid. I never had intrusive thoughts about it until after he was maybe 1 and I saw an episode of some crime show involving children
I’m sorry to hear that. If it’s any consolation - I feel for you massively. You don’t deserve this. I hope you have luck along this journey x
Oh my god I have POCD - and I want to have children. If I can manage to live that life I would feel so happy for myself, I’ve basically ruled it out. I have gronial response, I get it for other topics other than children, basically anything taboo that gives me anxiety. That side, I don’t know how I’ll ever feel right having kids. Have either of you got this aspect? I like to think I can make a recovery from this, now the indicators of my OCD mind are becoming clearer and clearer recently - however even if I recovered the thought it would return and be directed at children is terrifying ! I want a family so badly though :(
Sorry, I meant to reply to you directly, but the response is below!
I hope you LL find courage to pursue building a family despite your OCD fears. I had pocd 10 years ago. For whatever reason it has not bothered me recently. I have 3 children and enjoy them so much.
@Sunflower 1234 You give us all hope, thank you.
Yes, I experience the groinal response too! It’s very common with sexual obsessions. However, the purpose of recovery isn’t to stop these sensations or thoughts or the anxiety, it’s just to sit with the uncertainty of it whenever it arises. So I think part of acceptance is realizing that if you have children, these thoughts could come up, but you will have the tools to deal with them. It’s definitely scary and part of what makes the decision so hard, but I think it would be worth it. Don’t let OCD make decisions for you!
Hello everyone! Is there anyone who told their partners that you experienced POCD in the past or that you are experiencing right now? How did they handle it? Did they understand it? Were they supportive? I'm creating future scenarios in my mind that I need to confess this to a future partner.
Hi NOCD community, I was hoping to get some advice from fellow sufferers. In December we welcomed the first baby into the family, my beautiful niece. Since then, my POCD has been awful, which I know is probably very normal. Last week, in the middle of a very high stress day in my family, I was changing my niece and as usually happens, I got intrusive thoughts about awful things people do to babies when changing them. The thoughts were so harrowing to have as I was also changing her at the exact same time, and I felt my hands just quickly want to finish patting her dry before putting her nappy on, and for some reason, my heart dropped with that hand movement, because I was afraid that I had acted out the awful thoughts in my head, in a moment of mania because my morals, values and heart do not align with abuse of any kind, especially to children. My niece is my everything, and I know I would never want harm to come to her in any way, shape or form. I love her endlessly. I am having therapy, but have only had a couple of sessions. But, I cannot shake the 'what if'. I am tortured over trying to remember what it was I did that made my heart drop, but I can't, and its getting fuzzier and fuzzier the more I try to remember. Could anyone offer any advice on this please? Thank you.
I have HOCD and my biggest dream is becoming a mother. However, with my intrusive thoughts/images I’ve stopped trying to conceive. Is there any other people that has been going through this same fear?
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