Team Uncertainty
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Meof3Meof3
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I had pcod before I got married and had children. My OCD themes changed a lot. Now I don't have pocd any more. I agree that you shouldn't make fear based decisions. Who knows what your OCD themes are going to be a few years from now.
sks2011sks2011
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I developed pocd from having my kid. I never had intrusive thoughts about it until after he was maybe 1 and I saw an episode of some crime show involving children
Trying to get over thisTrying to ge...
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I’m sorry to hear that. If it’s any consolation - I feel for you massively. You don’t deserve this. I hope you have luck along this journey x
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Oh my god I have POCD - and I want to have children. If I can manage to live that life I would feel so happy for myself, I’ve basically ruled it out. I have gronial response, I get it for other topics other than children, basically anything taboo that gives me anxiety. That side, I don’t know how I’ll ever feel right having kids. Have either of you got this aspect? I like to think I can make a recovery from this, now the indicators of my OCD mind are becoming clearer and clearer recently - however even if I recovered the thought it would return and be directed at children is terrifying ! I want a family so badly though :(
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Sorry, I meant to reply to you directly, but the response is below!
Meof3Meof3
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I hope you LL find courage to pursue building a family despite your OCD fears. I had pocd 10 years ago. For whatever reason it has not bothered me recently. I have 3 children and enjoy them so much.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@Sunflower 1234 You give us all hope, thank you.
Team UncertaintyTeam Uncerta...
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Yes, I experience the groinal response too! It’s very common with sexual obsessions. However, the purpose of recovery isn’t to stop these sensations or thoughts or the anxiety, it’s just to sit with the uncertainty of it whenever it arises. So I think part of acceptance is realizing that if you have children, these thoughts could come up, but you will have the tools to deal with them. It’s definitely scary and part of what makes the decision so hard, but I think it would be worth it. Don’t let OCD make decisions for you!
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