- Username
- Team Uncertainty
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I had pcod before I got married and had children. My OCD themes changed a lot. Now I don't have pocd any more. I agree that you shouldn't make fear based decisions. Who knows what your OCD themes are going to be a few years from now.
I developed pocd from having my kid. I never had intrusive thoughts about it until after he was maybe 1 and I saw an episode of some crime show involving children
I’m sorry to hear that. If it’s any consolation - I feel for you massively. You don’t deserve this. I hope you have luck along this journey x
Oh my god I have POCD - and I want to have children. If I can manage to live that life I would feel so happy for myself, I’ve basically ruled it out. I have gronial response, I get it for other topics other than children, basically anything taboo that gives me anxiety. That side, I don’t know how I’ll ever feel right having kids. Have either of you got this aspect? I like to think I can make a recovery from this, now the indicators of my OCD mind are becoming clearer and clearer recently - however even if I recovered the thought it would return and be directed at children is terrifying ! I want a family so badly though :(
Sorry, I meant to reply to you directly, but the response is below!
I hope you LL find courage to pursue building a family despite your OCD fears. I had pocd 10 years ago. For whatever reason it has not bothered me recently. I have 3 children and enjoy them so much.
@Sunflower 1234 You give us all hope, thank you.
Yes, I experience the groinal response too! It’s very common with sexual obsessions. However, the purpose of recovery isn’t to stop these sensations or thoughts or the anxiety, it’s just to sit with the uncertainty of it whenever it arises. So I think part of acceptance is realizing that if you have children, these thoughts could come up, but you will have the tools to deal with them. It’s definitely scary and part of what makes the decision so hard, but I think it would be worth it. Don’t let OCD make decisions for you!
How did you decide whether or not to have children? My psychologist tells me that people with contamination ocd can be great parents but I just don’t know how I will possibly be able to handle it. My partner wants children and I think I do too but I’m just not sure if it’s the right choice for someone like me. I can’t take care of a human being if I go back to having full-on breakdowns and constant panic. Any advice or personal experience is appreciated.
Are there any moms out there who are struggling with pocd? I wanted a child my whole life since I was a little girl but pocd is ruining everything. Can anyone share their story?
i haven’t been diagnosed w/ ocd but my therapist says i have like symptoms of it but i recently just stared dealing w/ Pocd (hell) that my therapist says was triggered from the sound of freedom which absolutely breaks my heart bc i was so excited to support the movie but now i feel like it’s one of my biggest regrets. i feel as if i would’ve never watched the movie i would’ve possibly never started dealing w/ this. But my biggest scare now w/ this is having my own kids . i’m F18 and throughout my whole teenhood my biggest goal and dream was to become a mother a GOOD mother. everything i tried doing was motivated by the thoughts of giving my kids the absolute best one day. Now i feel like it’s my biggest fear w/ dealing w/ this and i don’t know how i’d even explain to someone like my bf for example, of the reason why i don’t want to have kids anymore ( though i still really do but i just literally feel like can’t because of this 💔💔) are there any mothers out there w/ Pocd w/ kids out here? how do you cope w/ this? should i even have kids?? i also feel as if it kinda bad rn. i was doing good for a couple weeks and last night it just rushed back for no reason. i’ve learned what groinal responses are ( it absolutely scared the shit out of me before i found out what it was and i was just not okay and sort still am not when it happens. it just feel too real and i end up sobbing god i hate this ) and i feel as if i’m constantly body checking myself especially when i see a cute baby or children tiktok i love babies n kids id never wanna hurt them in such away i rather pass away. i just can’t believe why this this happening i used to be so much more happier before this and i really don’t know how to deal w/ this and what i should do😖💔💔
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