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It’s a rough trigger don’t be too hard with yourself you’re slowly exposing and learning to handle your harm OCD. Self compassion :$)
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It may also be worth considering whether part of the issue is the way he's talking about suicide. Like race, religion, politics, gender, etc, suicide is a really sensitive topic. Many people (unintentionally) discuss it in ways that are disrespectful and damaging. For suicide, this might sound like: -"Just shoot me" when someone's frustrated -"people who attempt suicides are cowards, they take the easy way out" -"suicide is so selfish" -"natural selection at work, eh" These kinds of comments elicit strong emotions. If your dad is saying these kind of things, a healthy response from you may include pointing out that he is being offensive and educating him (if you think that could be effective) or setting boundaries about not discussing suicide with him (you'd need to clearly state that you don't want to discuss suicide with him and then leave conversations if he brings it up)
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My sister has a habit of talking about extremely triggering things around me. It's not something to avoid but it still upsets me a lot, she does it when I'm stuck in a car with her, or loudly outside my bedroom door. She's talking about those things because they're relevant to her own life, they're not aimed at me, but we have had some very similar experiences and I developed PTSD whereas she didn't, which she knows. She also talks a LOT in general (she has anxiety) and is young, I wish she was just more aware of the impact and have these conversations in a way that is more considerate, but I have also found it very difficult to make her aware of how this affects me- I don't want a fight about it.
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i completely understand - both my parents seem to manage to trigger me daily - to the point where i had an anxiety response to my mum at one point. i’m sorry she does that x
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:)) *
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thank you honey x
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Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well! I lost my dad yesterday and me having ocd since I was 7, it just skyrocketed. Yesterday it was difficult for sure, but I didn’t have any intrusive thoughts about self harm. It all happened suddenly when I was half asleep (trying to sleep even though it was really hard), were I feel as if a switch turned on in my brain and out of nowhere I started feeling angry. I recognised at that moment that I was not angry but that’s what my brain was telling me. And that’s when I had an intrusive thought of harming my mom came to my mind and immediately after that came the thought of harming myself. And it stuck. I know grief can make these themes pop up, but what if this is all real and not ocd? I’m scared. I acknowledge I don’t have thoughts in my head of planning to harm myself, it’s just a feeling that this is going to happen. Now letting my thoughts out brings me relief, even sometimes this intrusive thoughts bring me relief (that is very scary), but ocd makes me so pessimistic, and that I’m doomed in life and the sad life my dad had will also be mine as well. There are moments where I feel hope and relief, but it doesn’t last for long. As if I’m so so sure that this is going to happen. And me having magical thinking ocd doesn’t help either. Grief is hard, sometimes I cry, other times I laugh with my friends and family, but those moments I laugh is when I get terrified ( I read people who have made up the decision to (you know) are happy and laugh. Anyways, I’ve talked to my mom about it, she’s super supportive of me restarting therapy and even though she’s struggling with grief, she’s always there to listen to me and give me all the comfort I need. But I informed her about the thoughts the moment the popped up. Just so that she knows and can save me because I don’t trust myself at all. Sorry for this huge rumble, but I’d really appreciate your advice. I’m scared and so not ready to start therapy (at one hand I don’t want to, it feels such a chore, but I know I need to get help). I’m very pessimistic at the moment and I feel no one can convince me that I’ll get better. I think my future life, and it brings me this warm nice feeling and then it is followed by the thought that this will never happen. And because I have magical thinking ocd, and my uni exams have just started, I had this feeling that this exam season will be endless and it’s never going to end. Guess what, I’m probably going to just take one exam out of three (my mind is like you see, this thought and feeling came true) and that’s where I get super pessimistic. Okay, I’ll shut up for now, please give me some advice on how you try to manage your thoughts and what to do for now. Take care ❤️
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messaged a suicide hotline thing for my area today and it was underwhelming and they didnt help much idk what to do ive hurt myself i dont trust myself myfamily are awake and i dont want them to know what im doing. idk whether to call 111 or 999 cus i dont avtually plan on kms i just cant get rid of the feelinf like what am i meant to do
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