Is p*rn a bad idea when I’m suffering from HOCD? I’m a straight male btw. because I used to be able to look at it and only focus on the women I was seeing. Now I can’t even see it with out feeling uncomfortable and noticing the man far more than I used to. I still am attracted to the woman but I can’t help but notice the guy and just lose all arousal.

That's true, a lot of "porn stars" are actually sex trafficking victims and don't actually consent to the actions happening to them (beware PornHub). Buuuut if you want to still get off to some sort of stimuli, ethically, try looking up audio porn or gifs of what you're interested in. That is the best advice I can give.

@Kelsey You’re both right. I’ve been slowly staying away but should could it off if I can. Thank you for the responses. :)

@Kelsey That's just not realistic at all

@Scoggy Audio porn? My right hand would beg to differ.

@Kelsey No, the idea that a lot of porn stars are sex trafficking victims.

@Scoggy Sex trafficking is officially defined as a “modern-day form of slavery in which a commercial sex act is induced by force, fraud, or coercion, or in which the person induced to perform such an act is under the age of 18 years.” A lot of porn stars are, in fact, forced, coerced, or straight up lied to about the acts they will be performing in films. According to anti-trafficking nonprofit, Rescue:Freedom, in 9 countries, 49% of sexually exploited women said that pornography was made of them while they were being sold for sex. In another survey, 63% of underage sex trafficking victims said they had been advertised or sold online. So yes, unfortunately, it is very, very common and likely that a regular porn viewer has seen at least one sex trafficking victim onscreen.

@Kelsey Holy shit and I’m sorry for the language but damn... I’ve always been disgusted by the idea of how horribly women are treated in our world. I understand men are included but honestly it’s just crazy to me women are the main victim. It’s sad to me and I think yeah it’s best I stayed off porn sites for a good long while or as a whole never again. Seems crazy to me that these sites casually post such careless content but then again it’s just money to them.

@Lost Mexico 00 Yes, there are some sick people out there... sex trafficking is a $99 billion dollar industry. There definitely is ethical porn out there though! You just have to do your research for "ethical pron companies", listen to audio porn, or even support an OnlyFans of a particular woman you like. No need to banish it forever. 😊

@K-Dizzle It's common for sex trafficking victims, but "a lot of sex trafficking victims have porn made of them" doesn't mean that "a lot of porn stars are sex trafficking victims". If I told you that a lot of my pets are fluffy, it doesn't mean that a lot of fluffy things are my pets. Even 100% of 5 pets being fluffy is 5 pets total and there are trillions of fluffy things in the world. It also doesn't warrant a "beware pornhub" warning or "porn is not good to watch" if 1 in a million videos was non consensual. Porn is a chosen and welcome income for far more women than it is forced on sex trafficking victims, boycotting it, it it would actually make any difference, would hurt a whole lot more women than it helps. So that was a pretty damn fearmongering set of statements.

@Scoggy *if it would

@Scoggy I'm not saying to avoid porn, I'm saying just make sure what you're watching is ethical. If the actress is having her needs met and respected then go wild. But if you do your research on porn you will know a massive amount of the women are manipulated into or forced to do acts not agree to in their contract. That is, by definition, sex trafficking. And I still stand by my boycott pornhub warning because they don't screen what is uploaded and a lot of people are currently boycotting them for allowing child pornography to be uploaded onto their platform. If you read my last statement you would see that I actively support small sex workers through OnlyFans and other platforms that they have more power over than the big production companies that don't give a shit about them. When pornography is made through a company, they get one paycheck no matter how many views the film gets. This means millions of people can jack off to them and they receive very little for it. When they do OnlyFans (or similar sites like it), they take power back for themselves and receive more money for their work while being able to set the standards of their workplace. If you want to know more information, I reccomend the documentaries Hot Girls Wanted and After Porn Ends on Netflix. Also, Anthony Padilla's interview with Mia Khalifa on YouTube.

@K-Dizzle What research, exactly? You just keep saying things like "massive amount" and I haven't seen the evidence for it. If there are documentaries which quote actual statistics which were reliably sourced with non biased data collection methods, I'd be interested in those sources. Because I'm pretty damn sure that whatever you have been watching makes its own money out of showing one side of the statistics. I googled it and all I could find was anti pornography sites with religious slants once you look at them. FYI my degree is in sociology and we've spent plenty of time going over the actual *academic* evidence suggesting that implications that often porn actresses do not actually consent to what they're doing is damaging to women's rights in an absolute plethora of ways, including contributing to the stigmatisation of it as a career and to laws which criminalise all types of sex workers, encouraging people to think that women need laws made to "protect" them which strip their rights to monetise their body as they choose. Nobody is arguing that it never happens. But your documentaries go out of their way to find shady companies and women who HAVE been victimised in this way, they're not out to represent the actual picture. Literally, even if 50% of porn actresses were to say that they have experienced being pressured or coerced into a sex act, that's still going to be one or two times over a ~10+ year career for most people.

@Scoggy I'm not sure why you are being aggressive towards me. I have not implied that there needs to be legislative action for sex workers or they need to be controlled in any way, and in fact have advocated SEVERAL TIMES during this discussion that sex workers should be empowered and supporting them. I am also in no way religious and Googled "Sex Trafficking and Porn studies" to find my statistics. Studies on the subject are scant because, I don't know if you know this but, human trafficking is illegal and a disgusting industry and not many trafficked peoples are going to speak out against their assailants because of the threat of power involved. You are making assumptions about me at this point. Hilariously enough, I have a degree in political science with a focus in sociology and have also studied this on an academic level and my professors would vehemently disagree with you. Be better at making arguments because this ain't it. If you want someone to hear you out, start by not beginning with insulting their character.