Is it possible to love someone to the point of where you feel really attached to them and cannot forget them and cannot leave but still not be attracted to them?

I know that f/f bonds are usually the strongest, I'm a lesbian or at least I think after all, but my OCD has latched onto a guy like that and it sucks, it isn't letting go for months despite the EPR.

Yes, I did feel some motherly energy with those women and usually I did enjoy and appreciate the bond with them without longing for anything sexual or romantic, it is only since I am struggling with the fear of being a lesbian that I suddenly have to question myself all the time, if I could have mistaken those positive feelings for romantic feelings and the love for my boyfriend for platonic love..it feels like my brain twisted everything upside down.. I would love to do therapy, but I have been on a waiting list for a CBT and ERP therapists for more than a year... I am considering to try online therapy .. have you gone through therapy on this app or in person?

@thinkingismyfighting No, I have no OCD specialists around and I'm not in the US. I try my best to do EPR by reading books about it but accepting understantly is very challenging when your intuition keeps reassuring you.

@thinkingismyfighting Both. I had a wonderful therapist through this app!

@ｆｅｎｎａ Yeah I have the same problem with my intuition reassuring me, often that happens automatically. I listen to Podcasts about Sexual Orientation and Coming out later in life and leaving a heterosexual marriage with kids (one of my worst fears, that I will get married and have kids and then blow it all up because I realize I am gay.). It works really well as an exposure but sometimes I cannot help but feel relieved when they talk about experiences that are quite different from my own, especially when they describe how it felt being married to a man while not being attracted to him. It is really tricky to keep yourself from feeling reassured... maybe this is a sign that I should move up to some exposures that scare me more... that's why it would be so good to have a professional by your side, but I am also not a US citizen, unfortunately 🙄 but I have seen that the OCD center of Los Angeles offers online therapy for people all over the world, maybe this could be a good opportunity?🤔

No, it's not ROCD. Now I've noticed that I was asking for reassurance, but my SO-OCD is fixated on guy that I love that I'm attracted to him and isn't letting go of him and is constantly fixated on him for months now to the point where I cannot stop thinking about him. I feel attached to him because I relate to him a lot, but I don't know if I'm attracted...

@ｆｅｎｎａ Gotcha. Yea I’ve felt the same way.

@ｆｅｎｎａ I am dealing with similar questions regarding some women in my life that I really got attached to emotionally. Mostly they were a lot older than me, I admired them, related to them and wanted to be like them. But also I really liked them and wanted to be somewhat close to them, but never in a sexual or romantic way, I rather would wish that they were my sister or any other kind of older relatives I could go to for advice or inspiration... I don't know what this says about me, but it makes me worry so much that my love for my boyfriend could not be real 😔 I know this is silly, because even if this was real sexual attraction to those women, it doesn't mean that I am not attracted or in love with my boyfriend .. sometimes I wish I could just identify as bisexual and move on but OCD doesn't let me accept this ambivalence it wants me to be 100% sure...