My bf hasn’t really been much of a texted and he forgets to send me gm or gn texts and I don’t know why it’s upsetting me so much. I have told him I like those things and he did it for a day or two and he forgets now. I know he doesn’t do it on purpose and a relationship shouldn’t be built in these little things I just can’t seem to let go. He also sometimes doesn’t input his opinion when I tell him my stories and I feel like he doesn’t listen which is something we have talked about before but that’s just how he is. I am very talkative he is not. I just want to learn to accept this without having to say “ you’re not right for each other” “you are settling” “you are trying too hard to make it work”. Like um yea I want this to work. He’s the best thing that’s happened to me and I love him. I just always seem to focus on the negative and always doubt everything. I hate it. I want to let go of these thoughts and if he doesn’t input on my stories I don’t wanna care he’s listening to me that’s what matters, if he doesn’t send me texts all the time who cares he’s never been a good texted anyways and he loves in other ways too. Like I can’t with this anymore

I feel the same!!!!!!! I’m always focusing on the negative...when there is so much positive...then I’m always scared that he just not the right one for me...I’m constantly questioning whether we’re right for each other and how I feel around him

I feel the same why so often! Are you doing ERP?

Like he has pretty much everything I want...he could be more affectionate...but that’s it!! I just can’t stop thinking that he’s not the right one...it’s constantly on my mind...& I don’t know if it’s my ROCD or not so it sucks :/

One thing my therapist suggested/ mentioned is that I have to manage my expectations like I send my bf msgs all day long and I probs get a response half the time. My therapist suggested an exposure like send a message but have no expectations that he’ll respond. So in my mind I phrase it like “ok I’m sending a meme- he might read it and love it but be busy or it might not be that funny or he hates me, or he thinks I don’t have much going on...ok brain idk which one it is but I’m totally laughing at this Garfield lasagna meme so I’m going to send it and who knows?!” And then I send it feel the uncomfortableness of no immediate response and live with it. I struggle so much with this bc were long distance so talking on the phone / texting is how I feel close to him. BUT I will say that he can be better about communication this is not simple!

How did you overcome this? Are you guys still together?