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I have this worry too. My boyfriend and I broke up recently. There were multiple reasons why, but I think my ocd had an effect on it. My ocd makes me feel like I can’t ever just be happy and accept life. It just has to make everything complicated
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I feel like this to’
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How is your boyfriend with your ocd?
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Before when we first got together it was extremely difficult for the both of us, I didn’t know how to deal with it as well. Now, after learning and going through trials and tribulations and putting in work and learning how to cope, not saying it’s easy because it isn’t,, it’s straining but he’s much much more understanding and I’m extremely grateful for that. And I am able to openly talk to him about my issues.
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That’s really good. My “ex” was the same way... I know it isn’t easy because I went through the same things with ROCD during our relationship. It’s hard to tell from appearance versus reality because our brain brainwashes us. I would try 1. Resisting reassurance, this is much easier said than done 2. Write down everyday something you love about yourself. It sounds silly to do with ROCD, but sometimes I feel like we are so hard on ourselves always highlighting our weaknesses that we need to also focus on everything positive
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The denial part is hard cause I had that same thought. I tried to think about everything I love about him and how much he makes me happy which helped
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Which can also be a form of reassurance but it’s better than asking other people because you learn to listen to yourself
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So the last couple of weeks I was in a super bad ROCD spiral, I was constantly looking things up and doing all the normal compulsions. Now I'm doing better, but I'm starting to wonder if that even was ROCD because I'm just thinking that maybe we're just not a great fit, but I want to be with him forever so bad. Does anyone else experience this?
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Im scared that if I start to think it too much, I will start to believe it, and it becomes my reality. I always have thoughts like, “Do I love him, what if I lose feelings, how longs is this going to last, when will these thoughts finally go away, is he the one for me, is this how love feels like or am I just convincing myself?” I start to search things up to make myself feel better but the longest that works for is a few hours and then that gut wrenching feeling comes back. I love him I’m sure of it, but then why do I feel like this? I know if I didn’t love someone I would let them go and would t even fight for it or try to get better, but for him I’m trying ever second of everyday and sometimes I just feel so hopeless. I can’t afford a therapist and I’m too busy to talk to one. I don’t know what to do or how to feel, sometimes I just feel numb and I hate it, sometimes I feel like crying but can’t, and most the time I don’t feel jealous anymore and that scares me because I’m a jealous person. Then I get thoughts and reminders of my ex. Not in a way that I like them but the hatred and the trauma and pain they left me with. The mental, verbal and physical abuse. Sometimes my current relationship reminds me of him and why I shouldn’t be in one because I always fall into this deep hole that feels impossible to get out of. I just get so scared.
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for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
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