My boyfriend and I went through a rough patch a while back ago, we’ve patched it up and things are better than ever. But I over think if I feel the same after what’s happened, if I want a future with him especially after everything that’s went down, I fear the future, our future,I wanna say I love him, I know I love him, but what if I’m in denial about it all and I should just break up with him because deep down I know it isn’t going to work. I go back and forth and try to check if this is rocd or not and I’m scared if it’s not.

I have this worry too. My boyfriend and I broke up recently. There were multiple reasons why, but I think my ocd had an effect on it. My ocd makes me feel like I can’t ever just be happy and accept life. It just has to make everything complicated

I feel like this to’

How is your boyfriend with your ocd?

Before when we first got together it was extremely difficult for the both of us, I didn’t know how to deal with it as well. Now, after learning and going through trials and tribulations and putting in work and learning how to cope, not saying it’s easy because it isn’t,, it’s straining but he’s much much more understanding and I’m extremely grateful for that. And I am able to openly talk to him about my issues.

That’s really good. My “ex” was the same way... I know it isn’t easy because I went through the same things with ROCD during our relationship. It’s hard to tell from appearance versus reality because our brain brainwashes us. I would try 1. Resisting reassurance, this is much easier said than done 2. Write down everyday something you love about yourself. It sounds silly to do with ROCD, but sometimes I feel like we are so hard on ourselves always highlighting our weaknesses that we need to also focus on everything positive

The denial part is hard cause I had that same thought. I tried to think about everything I love about him and how much he makes me happy which helped

Which can also be a form of reassurance but it’s better than asking other people because you learn to listen to yourself